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Why do you think it is hard for a man and a woman to communicate? Why do they react different while communicating?

Asked by Latina1486 (20points) March 7th, 2011

Why is it hard for men and women to have a conversation?

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incendiary_dan's avatar

I find this is only the case when they’re bad at communicating. Partly, it’s people just blaming gender differences for their shortcomings at communication, and partly it’s actually the different socialization they receive. But like I said, people who learn proper communication skills don’t seem to have this problem.

MilkyWay's avatar

Because they often assume that they can’t or won’t be able to communicate effectively anyway… They shouldn’t think like that.

augustlan's avatar

Some women and some men seem to have this problem, but I’m not one of them. I couldn’t begin to tell you why some people are at odds with one another during a simple conversation.

jetblondie's avatar

I can’t say why it is hard for a man and woman specifically to have difficulty communicating, but as for people in general, I think the reasons depend on the people. I am one of those people who don’t have a problem admitting fault, making fun of myself, etc., so I consider myself a good listener (for the most part). People who are defensive are not good listeners (usually) because they are too busy taking a defensive stance when someone else opens their mouth. On the other hand, I am very much in touch with my emotions, so I tend to have a hard time communicating when I have a problem with someone. I know that what works for me is to step back, think, write down my thoughts to gain clarity and emotional detachment, and then go to the person with a clear head. And notes! (You laugh, but it works!)

Spreader's avatar

Some spend so much time in front of the TV watching other people’s lives that they have little time for their own. Hence, turning off the television set is often a necessary step toward wholesome communication.Just as there is a right time to speak, however, there is a time to keep quiet. The wise man said: “For everything there is an appointed time, . . . a time to keep quiet and a time to speak.” Indeed, there are also proper words to say. “A word at its right time is O how good!” notes a proverb. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7;) So determine when it is the best time to make your point or to express your heart’s concern. Ask yourself: ‘Is my mate tired or in a relaxed and refreshed frame of mind? Is the subject that I wish to broach potentially explosive? What did my spouse object to in my choice of words when we last spoke about this matter?’It is good to remember that people react best when they can see how cooperating or complying with a request would benefit them. If some stress has developed between mates, one of them might be inclined to say, “Something has been bothering me, and we are going to get it straightened out right now!” Of course, exact wording would depend on the circumstances, but it may be better to say something like this, “Dear, I have been thinking about the matter we discussed earlier and how things might be worked out.” Which approach would your mate be more likely to appreciate? Yes, how something is said is very important. The apostle Paul wrote: “Let your utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt.” (Colossians 4:6) Endeavor to be gracious in your tone of voice and choice of words. Bear in mind that “pleasant sayings are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones.”—Proverbs 16:24.
Much can often be learned by taking note of how compatible marriage mates communicate with each other. What has made them that way? Most likely, their harmony and the ease with which they communicate have resulted from personal effort, patience, and loving consideration. They themselves apparently had a lot to learn, for good marriages do not happen automatically. How important it is, then, to consider your partner’s viewpoint, to appreciate his or her needs, and to defuse potentially stressful situations with a discreet word. (Proverbs 16:23) If you are married, then, work at being pleasant to live with and easy to apologize to. That will go a long way in making your marriage a good one,God wants people to enjoy happy, lasting marriages. But the key lies in the hands of those united in wedlock. It takes two loving people who really work together to unlock the door to a successful marriage by mastering the art of wholesome communication.

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