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Do you ever feel "disliked?"?

Asked by Taciturnu (6040points) March 17th, 2011

Do you ever have a day that you feel people don’t like you as much as usual? I wonder if I’m overly self-conscious those days or if I might be a little obnoxious without realizing it.

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Coloma's avatar

Mmmm, I don’t think so, I’m easy to get along with, but….I know my quirks and flaws and try to keep them in check. haha

Then again, the question is, really, do I care?

If anyone is too difficult to get along with I won’t grieve for long when it’s over. lol

cak's avatar

I know someone down the street from me that really doesn’t like me. It’s okay. I don’t need to be friends with everyone I meet. She didn’t like when I walked her son home, after he bit another boy at a party we were having for the Scout Pack. I didn’t embarrass the boy, in fact the other boy only whispered it to me and played with the boy, without another word. When I rang the door and asked to speak to her, alone I told her what happened. I just wanted to let her know what happened, because it involved another child, not mine and that parent may call her. That was it. No, *&()^& can’t come over anymore. None of that, just a head’s up.

A week later, my husband asked what I said to her because another mom told him she was called me a b***ch for even saying anything to her. Fact is, the child is old enough to know not to bite. These are boys 7–10yrs of age, not toddlers.

I’m not losing sleep over this matter.

@Taciturnu – Are you talking about just anyone, or do you think your friends don’t like you. Just for clarification.

Taciturnu's avatar

@Coloma I hear ya! I’m usually glad when those connections have fizzled, too.

@cak Nah, in general. I tend to have those days when life is bogging me down and stress levels are high, so I’m sure there’s a correlation. I’m curious to know if others have the same sensation. I know who my friends are. :)

cockswain's avatar

Sure. Surprisingly, I know a decent number of people who’s disdain for me ranges from mild to intense. So be it.

In fact, I would be so bold as to suggest @coloma finds me somewhat arrogant, selfish, and annoying

Joker94's avatar

I suppose so, yeah. I’m quite sure I annoy a few jellies, thinking of it now. But yes, when I have a stressful day, I tend to feel the same way as you do.

cak's avatar

@Taciturnu: I would tend to agree with you. Then again, my family points out that when stress levels are high, I get into snippy business mode. I think it’s quite rude that they have a list of labels for my moods!

I try to take a step back and see if I’m coming across in the aforementioned mood, if I am, I try to calm down, a bit.

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ratboy's avatar

No. People frequent tell me that they dislike me, or even hate me. I don’t believe them, however, because I cannot conceive of world in which I’m not universally loved.

TexasDude's avatar

Sure, but I don’t give a damn.

Haters gonna hate.

augustlan's avatar

Sometimes I do. Usually when I’m feeling down, I get extra self-conscious (and self-absorbed). Every little thing other people do or say seems to be about me, and not in a good way. I’m so happy I don’t have those days very often anymore!

Bellatrix's avatar

Sometimes yes. Shrugs… that’s life. Can’t please all the people all the time. If I know it is me being an ass, well I will try to modify my behaviour. However, sometimes it is them being an ass and I really don’t give a shit then.

BarnacleBill's avatar

All the time. It’s insecurity.

ucme's avatar

Nah, I mean….what’s not to like? ;¬}
Truth is, I don’t give a rat’s arse if i’m not your cup of tea. Can’t please everyone, so why try.

12Oaks's avatar

24/7 for like 3 decades. I quit caring about that 2 decades ago.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I often feel this way, I get days when I am convinced that I am the most irritating person on the planet and that everyone must dislike me because I would dislike me if I wasn’t me.

Berserker's avatar

Sometimes I do. Sometimes it feels like people dislike and even hate and despise me, and that gets bothersome when you suspect it’s people you like and are friends. But the truth of the matter, when I snap my thoughts back in line, is that, probably, nobody really gives a shit. People don’t spend enough time thinking about me to hate or dislike me, I mean they have their own lives, and whatever indication of dislike they may hint at probably serves as something that firstly benefits them. (this I also attribute to positive perceptions that people have of me) I mean I haven’t killed people or raped anyone’s cat. So it’s like, there’s no real reason for me to really be a significant part of someone’s life, not like how I sometimes think it might be. Although I hope I won’t still think that if I fall in love with someone who loves me back or something lol.

Joker94's avatar

I love you, Symbeline…

Berserker's avatar

Oh hey, how’s it goin’? :D

Joker94's avatar

Oh, you know, you know. Hangin’ in there. Yourself?

Berserker's avatar

I’m good. In order not to get disliked warned for being all off topic though, I’ll be in the chatroom for a bit.

Schroedes13's avatar

In my life, many people have taken my high level of self-confidence as outright arrogance and ego centrism. Those people generally don’t like me for that. Sad story for them.

Coloma's avatar

Not usually, but, I can relate to @Schroedes13
I am the same way, not ego centric, but confident, outspoken, however, very diplomatic , have an assertive personality and don’t put up with crap when the slight odor becomes a steamy pile not to be ignored.

I once had someone tell my that no one ever has to guess where they stand with me, I take that as a compliment. I am very genuine and that may be intimidating to some personalities. Oh well, can’t please everyone all the time, nor do I care to. :-)

Coloma's avatar

@Schroedes13

Mirror, mirror, ...;-D

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