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Eggie's avatar

What are some tips in improving my confidence around women?

Asked by Eggie (5703points) March 19th, 2011

I am a fairly confident person but sometimes I look too quiet. What are some of the things that would make me more confident?

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iamthemob's avatar

This is one of those things that really is all about “learning by doing.”

If you don’t put yourself out there, you won’t learn what works and what doesn’t. And once you have a solid concept of what works for you, after comes the confidence.

marinelife's avatar

Pretend that talking to a girl is just like talking to a guy friend.

Seelix's avatar

Eggie! You’re back!

Talking to a woman isn’t any different from talking to a man. Just don’t expect her to giggle if you fart. (If she does, that might mean bonus points for you, though!)

marinelife's avatar

@Eggie Yes, nice to see you here again.

wundayatta's avatar

How do you know you look “too quiet?” How do you know this quietness makes women think you lack confidence? Have you ever asked a woman about this? Or several women?

Perhaps you don’t feel confident, but you appear confident. In any case, what is this quietness like? Do you not answer questions? Do you stutter? Turn red? Have difficulty getting your ideas out? Are you simply unable to talk to a woman?

I would need some specific behaviors if I were to give you any useful advice. I would need to understand what you think is happening and why. I would need to hear about the responses you get. I would need to understand what you want from women that you think improved confidence will give you.

Eggie's avatar

@wundayatta i dont speak loudly. I am not really active in sports, although i play soccer once and awile. I dont move very rapidly in my movements but slowly and I am not boisterous in a crowd. I dont usually lead conversations and girls generally tell me i am too nice or too quiet. I can muster up confidence when I want to but generally i am labelled as quiet. I look like the person who does not party or drink and i am quite the opposite.

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