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Have you ever surprised yourself?

Asked by mazzkat (305points) March 27th, 2011

I think the only time I surprised myself was the morning I woke up and realised I didn’t love my ex anymore, after 3 years of doing so. I was ecstatic, like I’d just won the lottery: I honestly thought I was doomed to love him forever. I’m now with a boy whom I’ve been with for 3 years who I never, ever thought in a million years I’d ever be able to be the girlfriend of.

How have you surprised yourself? What did it help or not help you to overcome/realise about yourself?

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mazingerz88's avatar

Ah, same thing here, only shorter. It took me 2 years to fully recover. Several pivotal events had to take place before that could happen as to my recollection. First, the suffering was so great I compelled myself to help other people to take my mind out of my own troubles. Second, my father cried when he saw how thin and depressed I became. Third, I realized she does not love me at all and the only reason she was my mine was I wooed her like she’s the only woman in the world. Years after I got over her, I saw this Bruce Willis movie where he tells Matthew Perry, “You’re lucky, you are about to find out if the woman you love really loves you.” He did and she loves him. I could only chuckle. ( what a jerk ! LOL )

Cruiser's avatar

Yes….today as a matter of fact! WTF am I doing up this early??? The house is not on fire and I am awake?? HS!??

Bellatrix's avatar

@cruiser You wet the bed???

yankeetooter's avatar

Yes…recently I decided to quit my part time job to have more time for school. The fact that I actually went through with it was amazing to me, because, even though I had figured out that I’d be fine financially, it’s was still a big scary step for me to have taken. I have never been so happy since I made this decision, however.

Also, about three months ago, I was able to approach someone about an issue that I was worried they needed help with. Now, normally when I was around this person I would get very tongue-tied/nervous/flustered because I am just a little smitten with them (and that’s a big understatement!) I was therefore very surprised that I was able to screw up enough courage to talk to this person for so long without the above happening, but I attributed it to the fact that I was genuinely concerned for their well-being and so was able to overcome any feelings of nervousness. The conversation went really well, and I am so happy that I was able to talk to them.

john65pennington's avatar

At the age of 58, for a second time in my life, I completed my police academy. I was out of shape and really concerned that my body would not let me finish and graduate a second time.The PT was a killer, My sweat had sweat. I lost 30 pounds almost instantly. I prayed for death and to bury me on the academy grounds.

Through a lot of prayers, my family and friends brought me through to graduation day. My total academy score was 92.9. Not bad for an over the hill cop.

To this day, I believe I am the oldest person to ever complete their police academy training and to graduate, for a second time. I was blessed.

CaptainHarley's avatar

I surprised myself by being able to force myself out the door of a perfectly good airplane in flight, by being able to max the Army’s Pysical Training test at the age of 50, at being able to actually pull the trigger when face to face with an individual trying his best to kill me, at the depth of my love for my firstborn child, at being able to fall in love again so intensely at the advanced age of 65, etc.

I surprise myself at having been able to surprise myself so many times! : D

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I can identify, dude! : D

gailcalled's avatar

When a friend of mine offered me a job teaching French to third and fourth graders, I immediately said, “No. Impossible. No training. Wrong person for the job.” Three months later I took a deep breath, mopped up the sweat and walked into a class of 23 9-year-olds.

I (and they, I hope) had a wonderful time; we all learned together. Kids that age are also very brave about working on what the lips, tongue, teeth, throat, glottis and smile muscles do inorder to make sounds sound different from what they sound like in English.

Six years later, same friend (now husband) asked me to run the College Placement program for the 11th and 12th graders in a Quaker day school in Phila.

I immediately said, “No. Impossible. No training. Wrong person for the job. I am a French teacher, remember?”

3 months later, having spent the summer visiting 30 college campuses, I took a deep breath, wiped off the sweat and stood up in front of 80 students and their parents and gave a little speech.

That was also wonderful.

laineybug's avatar

I surprised myself when I had the courage to stand up to a friend that was being a horrible friend. She and one of my other friends had convinced themselves and two other people that I had done something that I really hadn’t. None of my other friends believed I had done anything, but those for people just wouldn’t believe me. One of them kept calling me just to yell at me, and eventually I had had enough. The last time she called me, I ended the conversation with ” I don’t care anymore, just leave me alone and stay out of my life!” then I hung up and deleted the numbers of those four people. In the end three of the four people and I worked it out. They said they didn’t even have proof that I did it and they just guessed that it was me. But to this day I’m still not friends with the last person, and I’m glad because she was not a good friend to me.

filmfann's avatar

When I dream, sometimes I dream of movies. They are films I have never seen, and usually surprise me with conversation and such. I never would have expected some of that dialog as coming from my subconscience.

faye's avatar

It’s been over 3 months since I had a cigarette
I cut my hair very short and quit dying it a couple of years ago. Turns out I’m pleased with the natural grey/brown mix.
It’s been 21/2 years since I told my alcoholic SO we were done unless he quit drinking to excess. Here I am, much happier. I had a skin condition that cleared up within a month of not seeing him!

JustJessica's avatar

Yes last night!!! I passed gas in my sleep and it surprised the heck out of me!!!

I’m not sure if this is the kind of answer your looking for but it was the first thing that came to my mind.

Winters's avatar

I was willing to be with a TS for a 3 day weekend, and I liked it…

toomuchcoffee911's avatar

Sometimes I’ll be reading out loud and I’ll come to a word that I’m not completely sure how to pronounce, and some how I’ll say it right with no hesitation.

Crazy stuff.

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