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I don't know what to do about my shyness can someone help me?

Asked by Utta_J (252points) March 29th, 2011

I just recently met this guy and he seems like the nice but wild type (which I really like) and we talked a little bit and he made me open up about a lot of things because I am really shy. Well whenever I see him I am really quiet and he rubs my back and talks to me. My sister always asks, “why don’t you talk to him”, and he always comes in and says, “because she is shy”. He can always read my mind I never have to actually say anything and whenever we do talk he always says, “your opening up”. And I will always remember the first conversation we ever had when I told him I never had a boyfriend before; he was so surprised that he thought I was gay. He told me I was really attractive and even if I have nothing to say when he calls me he always keeps the conversation going. I don’t know why but its really weird to me he keeps talking to me calling me his baby, boo, and girlfriend. I’m the type of girl that think most guys are out there for one thing ( I know they all aren’t) but that’s just the way I think. And by now most guys would stop talking to me but he has not. Maybe he really likes me and I’m just over reacting? I’m really thinking about giving him a chance. But I’m so shy…maybe that’s why most people stopped talking to me because they think I’m just not interested? I’m really shy, but I was thinking of just sucking it up and talk to him because he is a really nice guy. I don’t know what to do, and I know that this is not the last time I will see him and he will call me I just know for a fact that I sound like I’m not interested but I really am! I try to over the shyness but then I stumble over words and I act like I’m stupid! I don’t know what to do can someone help me?

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ninjaapantz's avatar

What do you want from this relationship? It sounds like you’re still considering it, it’s a good thing. If you asked him why he pays so much attention to yourself – what do you have to loose? Once you know what he wants, then you can choose what you want to do about it. To over come shyness, it takes practice & time. Just keep at it, make an effort to talk to different people. Just start with small things, like ‘hello’ or ‘do you have the time’. You’ll be surprised that others are often just waiting for someone else to start talking.

marinelife's avatar

Take a chance. He does really like you.

Let him know you like him too. Say something like, “I really appreciate that you have kept on talking to me even though I am so shy I have trouble responding.”

yankeetooter's avatar

Yeah, I agree with @marinelife , this guy is really willing to invest some time getting to know you. He’s not pushing you not to be yourself, but encouraging you to open up-that’s a very good thing…

mcsnazzy's avatar

From the sounds of it, he’s really into you. He’s into you even with your shyness. And its okay to be shy. He’s not pushing you to be more outgoing, so you shouldn’t push yourself. I think oer time, youl open up more as you get to know him better. Just be yourself…its working :)

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