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Would any jellies like to join me in a quest to get over our fears?

Asked by Mariah (25761points) April 12th, 2011

It has recently come to my attention that I am a big coward, and my fears are holding me back in life.

As such, I’m going to start making a concerted effort to face my fears. And we all know it’s easier to keep up momentum on these sorts of things when we have support. So, I was wondering if there would be any interest here on Fluther in turning this into a group thing – to keep a running thread where participants can make a list of what fears we need to face, set specific goals on how to do so, and report, maybe weekly, on progress made. Anyone game?

If not, I can post by myself on the progress thread, that’s okay too!

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Jeruba's avatar

This is a perfectly marvelous idea, @Mariah. Hurrah for you and for your thread. Long may it thrive, with much fear-battling and demon-chasing achieved. I’m not phobic (although there as some things that I distinctly dislike in a very visceral sort of way, such as being in elevators above about six floors), but I’ll cheer you on.

KateTheGreat's avatar

I have so many fears that I need to get over. So sure, I’m game.

Mariah's avatar

Thanks @Jeruba, always nice to have a cheerleader! :D

@KatetheGreat Great! Hopefully some more people will join us, and then I’ll post the thread. An uncomfortable time will be had by all! :D

El_Cadejo's avatar

Im down. I dont have any phobias but I do have personal fears in other ways that have been leading to a lot of depression in my life. Feelings of hopelessness and fears that it will never turn around, never get better. It’d sure be great to be able to work through all that :)

Mariah's avatar

@uberbatman Awesome! (Well, not awesome that you have fears, obviously, but awesome you want to work through them.) Just for the record, this is in no way exclusively about phobic fears. I have one phobic fear that I’m putting on the list, the rest are just plain cowardly behavior!

KateTheGreat's avatar

@Mariah I’m very grateful that I now have some sort of inspiration to overcome my fears. I’ll definitely be following this!

Michael_Huntington's avatar

I want to get rid of my social anxiety and my shyness.

Jude's avatar

I have a few. A few that are crippling right now. I am hoping to deal with them in therapy which starts on the 26th of April. I’ll let you all know how it goes.

Mariah's avatar

@Michael_Huntington Me too! Are you in college yet? I can’t remember if you’re my age or a year younger. Starting college did me a world of good for that.

@Jude Glad to hear you’re already looking to take action, stop by the thread and let us know how you’re doing!

Michael_Huntington's avatar

@Mariah Yes, same age.
I’m in college too, but I think the problem is that I kinda have have the same fear (fear of failure), and I spend my time more on school than socializing with other people. Plus I commute and I don’t live in a dorm, so that might be a factor.

Mariah's avatar

@Michael_Huntington I could see myself doing the same thing. I had a reduced courseload due to being ill which gave me more time for non-work things. I need to learn better time management for when I go back and take a full load, or I fear I’m going to do little else but study.
I’ve always thought it’d be difficult to meet people as a commuter, that’s too bad. :[ Maybe you could meet people through some extracurriculars? That could simultaneously be a good distraction from your work, too.

Mariah's avatar

Alright folks! Meet me here!

Michael_Huntington's avatar

I’ll post my reply in the new thread.

Cruiser's avatar

Take a pass…the minute I stop being afraid of something is the moment life ceases to be an adventure!

Mariah's avatar

@Cruiser Hey, there’s nothing wrong with adrenaline-rush type fear! I want to combat the debilitating kind – the kind that makes you too scared to go on those adventures.

Cruiser's avatar

@Mariah Sorry for not being clearer but those debilitating ones are the adventures I seek out. Making that decision to just do it is hugely hard but exhilarating as all get out and actually doing it is 10 times better!

Mariah's avatar

@Cruiser Well good on you, sounds like you’re about 10 steps ahead of me here! Even if I don’t get over my fears, I’d consider myself very successful if I could reach a point where facing them was exhilarating rather than crippling.

Cruiser's avatar

@Mariah Start by discarding and never using the word “crippling” again. Replace with fun and exhilarating and you will soon see you are doing things you never thought possible though it is always good to let someone go first and show you how it’s done! ;)

Haleth's avatar

Great idea! I need to get over my shyness.

Mariah's avatar

@Haleth Great, me too! In case you didn’t see it above, the thread is here.

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