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How can I get my girlfriend back?

Asked by mineown (438points) April 15th, 2011

Me and my girlfriend broke up last week. After a lot of fighting, and the fact that she is now 3 hours away (I drove up to see her all the time) she did not think that the problems could be fixed. I know that they can be if she would just try, but she was so unwilling to try. How can I try to get her back?

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YoBob's avatar

Dude, hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if she is not willing to try, then she has already made her final decision and there is really not a lot you can do about it.

Move on. You can probably do better anyway.

mineown's avatar

I thought about that a lot, but I also think that if given time she might be willing. If nothing else, I at least want to be on good terms with her.

ParaParaYukiko's avatar

You may not be able to get back together, especially if she’s not willing, like @YoBob said. If you want to get back on good terms, don’t push it. Give her time and let her get back to you when she’s ready. If you push her, it’ll only make things worse.

I know. I broke up with my SO of 2.5 years and something similar happened. I tried to mend things too quickly and it blew up in my face; now I’m pretty sure he thinks I’m the devil.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Time will tell if things can go back to “good terms”. Once an ex becomes an ex, it’s time to move one.

mineown's avatar

I disagree. It’s always possible for love to be rekindled and work out just fine.

SpatzieLover's avatar

she did not think that the problems could be fixed. Not unless two people are on the same page. She is not. Time to move on.

shared3's avatar

I’d suggest giving her some space. That said, it’s impossible for anyone on the internet to fully grasp your situation. Every situation is different, and I can definitely see some circumstances where you should actively try to restart your relationship. I don’t see this from what you’ve told us, but then again, how can I know what’s best without knowing much, much more?

Tropical_Willie's avatar

“Always” is a REAL strong word.

One side is not interested and the other side, no matter how much it hurts, is not going to make up the difference.

mineown's avatar

There are alot of details i didnt say.

math_nerd's avatar

And those details are probably the reason she is done with you.

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