Do you have a secret that could end your marriage?

If I did I wouldn’t be talking about it on here.

No not married, why is this question showing twice?

If you do have a secret that could end your marriage, you shouldn’t be in it (the marriage that is), because either you’re not honestly committed or it’s not strong enough to withstand some turbulence.

everybody has a secret. Even a secret they dont tell there lovers or family

@Hollister0221: Amend to “they dont tell their lovers or family, but tell Fluther!”

Any secrets I may have would remain secret, and I wouldn’t go on a game show to reveal it for any amount of money. I think that show is in the same league as the Springer show.

Tell your secret now and ruin your marriage; next time on “The Moment Of Truth”

I love it when people you guys’ age give your expert opinions on these topics.

Sorry, that sounded so snide, but it was mostly affectionate. I just find that my own
marriage, which is a long-term one, is so complicated, so full of lessons, so
surprising, so slow to teach me its own rules… so I can’t make claims about it very easily.
Still,
I don’t think secrets are a good idea in a marriage. Privacy? sure. We don’t look at each other’s email, for example. But why would I want to have a secret
from this person? His body is my other body. His brain is my other brain. His soul is my soul. We trust each other because in a mystical way we ARE each other. I dunno.
It seems like the point of marriage is that you have this immense privilege, this amazing opportunity to let your guard all the way down. Why waste that?

@ susanc: I’d give you 5 points if I could :) I have come across a few of your responses today, and can relate well to much of what you say.

@ hollister0221: Not everyone has secrets. I have learned tat there is no point to complicating life any more than it is already. I have struggled hard to overcome much in my life, and have learned to love myself as I am, I want those in my inner circle to also love me “as is”. Relationships built on false pretenses, secrets, and lies will inevitably fail.

Moment of Truth is such an awful show. I saw the one where the wife admitted to wanting to cheat, thinking a lot about her ex during her wedding, wishing she married her ex, lying to her husband about pretty important stuff, and more. I can’t believe she answered all of that and then lost everything on the “Do you think you’re a good person?” question.

Bummer. (Plays the world’s smallest violin.) Se la vie.

Thank you hearkat, I like you too.