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How do the British nannies get the children to behave so well?

Asked by jca (36059points) May 1st, 2011

One thing that impressed me about the Royal Wedding was the little flower girls and the young boys that were in attendance. I was impressed with their behavior, and that fact that they did not run off or act silly. I have a child that is of pre-school age, and although she is a very good kid, I don’t know if she would have been so well behaved as those children were.

How do the British nannies get the children to behave so well?

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marinelife's avatar

How do you know it was the nannies? Perhaps it was the parents.

trickface's avatar

They are taught from age 0 how to act proper and polite, I imagine their punishments are severe too! Royalty is the only life they know and I imagine the parents close off any exposure to influence of dissent or rebellion.

BarnacleBill's avatar

My children never acted silly or ran around out in public when young. I could stop them dead in their tracks with a look if I needed to. It worked because they were prepared in advance as to what was expected of them, lots of positive praise for good behavior, and we made sure that we interacted with them. Children tend to misbehave when parents ignore them at events to socialize with other adults. If a situation appeared to be more than they could handle, we would leave and go home before it got out of hand. Children are generally fine at day weddings, but need to stay home at night.

JLeslie's avatar

I have never seen a child act up when part of a wedding.

jrpowell's avatar

My dad used to beat the shit out of my mom and us. People would comment about how well behaved we were. They didn’t know that we were just scared to rock the boat.

marinelife's avatar

@johnpowell It is good to see you back under your “real” moniker. I am sorry that happened to you. We also behaved very well (people would comment on it) out of fear of my father’s rages and the belt.

JLeslie's avatar

I like @BarnacleBill answer. The children need to be told what is expected of them, and walk them through it. The royal wedding was rehearsed more than once. The adults need to be aware of a child’s attention span, and make sure they are entertained up until the time of the event. They cannot be silent, waiting, and ignored for hours whilst everyone readies themselves for the wedding.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Well, before we jump to the conclusion that all of the children have nannies, or that they are all royal, let’s take a look at who they are:

Kate’s Bridesmaids

Kate’s bridesmaids are all children, which is traditional for British royal weddings. Prince William’s mother, Princess Diana, chose one of her preschool students as a bridesmaid.

Kate’s bridesmaids will be Lady Louise Windsor, age 7. Louise is the daughter of Prince William’s Uncle, Prince Andrew, and his wife Sophie. Unlike some royal children, Lady Louise has had a low profile and is not often seen.

Another bridesmaid will be 8-year-old Margarita Armstrong-Jones, daughter of Viscount and Viscountess Linley. Margarita is the only granddaughter of the late Princess Margaret, the current queen’s sister. Margarita’s aunt Sarah served as a bridesmaid in Prince Charles and Princess Diana’s 1981 wedding.

Grace van Cutsem, age 3, will be a bridesmaid as well. She is a goddaughter of Prince William, and her father, Hugh van Cutsem, is a close friend of Prince William and Prince Harry.

Another 3-year-old, Eliza Lopes, will round out the bridesmaid roster. With these little ones, let’s hope there are plenty of helpers around. Eliza’s father is Andrew Parker Bowles, son of Prince Charles’s current wife Camilla.

Prince William’s Page Boys

For his page boys (here in the US we call them groomsmen), William has chosen William Lowther-Pinkerton, age 10, and Tom Pettifer, who is 8.

William (“Billy”) Lowther-Pinkerton is the son of William’s private secretary and friend, Jamie Lowther-Pinkerton.

Tom Pettifer is the son of William’s beloved former nanny, Tiggy Legge-Bourke, and is William’s godchild as well. Source

I feel that @BarnacleBill has the answer you may be looking for. While I don’t have children, I was one once. Occasionally, Dad would take me to work. It was looked upon as a treat because he would buy me an ice cream in the cafeteria before we left. Please understand that it wasn’t set up as a bribe to behave well; in fact, the alone time with Dad was reward enough.

Cruiser's avatar

With the words….“do this or else” even the most stubborn can be coerced to perform as desired under certain circumstance.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

Maybe because of the british accent. Its so soothing and smooth.

Aethelwine's avatar

I too like @BarnacleBill‘s answer. When children are given a set of instructions and things to do, they will behave. Ignore them and they will find things to do that you may not like.

Lightlyseared's avatar

Lady Louise Windsor is the daughter of Prince Edward not Prince Andrew.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

@Lightlyseared Oops…I should have read the comments posted on that link first. Another correction is that Eliza Lopes is the daughter of Camilla and ex-husband Andrew’s daughter Laura, making Eliza their granddaughter.

Lightlyseared's avatar

@Pied_Pfeffer yeah, another example of high quality fact checking and reporting from the media there. It’s a good job people dont base their opinions on what those idiots write…

Mikewlf337's avatar

Perhaps British children are taught to behave properly. Much better than our American children. I find it annoying when kids act up during social gatherings. Nothing worse than a kid who runs running around and being loud and obnoxious during social gatherings, ceremonies and movies at the movie theatres. Nothing like trying to watch a movie on the big screen and then see the silhouettes of children running across the screen and laughing. It is also bad when they do it during church services. They like to run around the pews. Sit down and behave children!

Lightlyseared's avatar

@Mikewlf337 I’ve seen British kids run around screaming at social gatherings, at church and ceremonies etc.

Ladymia69's avatar

They beat the shit out of them when the cameras are turned off.

Kardamom's avatar

@BarnacleBill got it 100% right.

I wish my young relatives had been taught like that

jca's avatar

@marinelife: I think the little royals spend most of their time with nannies and not their parents. The parents are doing charity work or whatever, and the nannies are practically raising the kids.

Mikewlf337's avatar

@ladymia69 Can you prove that???

YARNLADY's avatar

From what I saw, after the fact, the children were well supervised, and not left alone to get into mischief. That is the rule that all parents should follow at all times.

Stinley's avatar

In supplement to @BarnacleBill – who has got it right, it is down to the parents to keep them in check by occupying them but I’m sure that the kids there had a nanny/servant or two designated to look after them, keeping them out of mischief and leaving the parents free to enjoy themselves. Like a creche, but posher…

when will my prince come?

Stinley's avatar

@JLeslie I love supernanny

mattbrowne's avatar

Perhaps more rules instead of a ‘how may I help you’ and ‘what do you like to eat’ attitude by the nannies.

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