Have you ever had to distance yourself from dramatic people?
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May 12th, 2011
I am working on my own issues and am going about it all calm. Focusing on my mental and physical health. I find that right now, I have no patience for overly dramatic people. People who talk non-stop about their problems or like to immerse themselves in drama.
Can’t handle it, so, I avoid.
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Sure I have. I find it isn’t too hard to distance yourself. I just put on my normal mien, and people generally flock to the exits.
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I intentionally don’t hang around people like that.
Yes.
Sometimes I’ll stick around to poke them with sticks.
Most of the time I am the drama bringer though I rarely whine about personal problems or issues. I just talk to damn much and a lot find that annoying.
I try to avoid that kind of person as a general rule. Sometimes they’re hard to avoid, though, like if they’re a coworker or classmate. I try to just ignore them in those cases.
Sure I do. I distance myself from Fluther quite a bit anymore. ;)
I was just talking to my lady about this. She said ”. I am a chill girl and so are you. I think that’s part of why we get along so well together.”
I can’t deal with it. I am moving the blond’s family up to North Mich. with us and we’re going to chill by the fire and drink beer.
@Lucy, I swear that’s why you, Nikki and I got along so well. We’re chill kinda ladies. :)
@Jude Please do! I’ll start packing now.
I don’t mind them in small doses.
What you call “overly dramatic people”, I call Martyrs. It’s a complex which deserves none of my time, and even less of my respect.
My Mom was the most outstanding example of this and I finally got her to move to California.
They’re not worth the effort and attention they want.
@janbb I moved an hour away from my mom. Best thing I ever did. lol I love her dearly, but…
Yes,often…. :-/ still it’s quieter now I’m home from work Lol…..
I tend to avoid stress and problems in my life, anyway, so without thinking about it, I do distance myself from drama queens. Unless you live with them, it’s pretty easy to do. Just forget to call them or return their calls for a while.
Oh yes, I keep my family at a far distance. That’s one of the reasons I live on a rock in the middle of the ocean.
Yes. Of course, the action of distancing yourself can cause even more drama.
It’s amusing sometimes and I don’t get out much.
I too had a mother who was prone to minute-to-minute drama. It was very difficult. At 96, she has finally outgrown that need.
I have once or twice. Unfortunately, dramatic people are everywhere these days, and it’s all a matter of how you handle the situation, or else said people could be deeply offended.
Yes but it took practice to become comfortable with. At first I felt like a bad friend or lazy listener or apathetic human in general but self preservation is important. Do it.
Oh yes, I can kill 7 with one blow! haha
Right with @Neizvestnaya on this one.
I have really realized that if you don’t offer any drama feedback there is nothing but silence.
Just let the groaning drama barge beach itself. lol
Yes; my older daughter. No person on earth could be more self-pitying or dramatic. Just a phone call and I’d have very uncomfortable symptoms. It’s sad; very sad. But I just can’t take it. Luckily, she lives 5 hrs away and her car is, of course, not running now. No matter what you give her she either leaves it somewhere, sells it or it crumbles into oblivion. Her sister, however, is from an entirely different cut of cloth.
Depends on what you call drama. Some people may just vent once in a while and some people complain about everything and everyone. Who hasn’t had a bad time or a complaint about someothing? Who hasn’t bitched about something trivial? If your friend comes to you with a problem and you just dismiss it as “drama” and then you distance yourself from that person because you don’t want to hear it then you are a bad friend. If your friend always has a greivance and doesn’t shut up about it. Then you help them by telling them to quit the pity party crap. Some people are quick to label people as drama queens. Some people just don’t want to listen to anyones problems because they don’t care about others. Some people are too quick to create “drama” out of a fart in the wrong direction. You have to distance yourself from the latter but don’t be an apethetic, self centered asshole or bitch either.
@Jude The thought of dramatic people.
I thought that you were calling me dramatic, and I was ready to smack a bitch. :)
@bob_ Need a sandwich to help with that head asplosion?
Gotta love the drama.
@Jude Why would I do that?
I grew up with it and my patience with gratuitous drama is short. Drama as an expressive mood is great. But constant drama is boring and exhausting for one thing, and the narcissistic sort tends to skirt around what’s really going on within the attention-getter so there isn’t real communication there.
You have every right to avoid upset when it’s avoidable.
You’re probably getting to know the warning signs and leave before you get upset and reward your patience inside. Keep your teacup placid on the way out the door.
I don’t think anyone means to not be supportive and caring when someone goes through a hard time, I’m talking when someones issues go on for YEARS and nothing changes. Now that’s the drama I avoid like the black plague. Ya know…if you can’t decide to divorce your husband within 20 something years after he has cheated on you twice, once with your SISTER…WTF! I KNOW life hands us hard stuff but really? How many freakin’ YEARS can people whine about the exact SAME stuff? lol
Yes, Drama Kings and Queens are draining energy sappers,very boorish and mundane, read the typical signs like the body language will bash you in the eye before the verbal diarrhoea spews out. Distance and Avoidance great tactics for healthy inner peace, mental and physical health:):)
Absolutely. I find people who thrive on drama to be incredibly draining. I avoid them as much as possible. Life with energy vamps sucks.
Yes I’ve done that so many times…I’m not socially inclined so I’m not sunken into drama but when it comes along I can’t say. I listen but just play along…I don’t want to do much since I don’t want to start more drama.
I had a friend who always over-dramatized whatever was going on in her life. She’d call me every morning with the latest. I finally answered her call with, “What’s the catastrophe of the day?” She didn’t like that. I was working in the school her child attended and she’d ask me about her kid’s behavior. I told her it would be unethical to report on her child. I told her I had to choose between our friendship or my job and my job would have to come first. It was a relief for me.
I don’t deal very well with dramatic people so I tend to avoid too. I ignored my sister for three years because of her dramatics. She has her ishoos and I would normally try to understand and accomodate but it was about my wedding (the one day you get to pick what you want to happen) and she never asked me how my pregnancy was going, just phoned me to give me grief about what she wanted to happen at the wedding. This was a stressful time(!) but I don’t regret making her realise she’d gone too far this time Though I did go on about the argument for ages with anyone that’d listen…
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