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What demeanor do you possess that make you realize you have become your parent(s)

Asked by AmWiser (14927points) May 28th, 2011

Fortunately or unfortunately at some point we either hate or love our parents for whatever reason…they’re to mean, to strict, to self-absorbed, to overbearing… and the list goes on. I know I grew up having a lot of issues with my parents, but was happy to finally grow to/and realize my parents always had my back, as they say. Still there were things my folks did that I swore I would never do and now I find myself doing.

One example (and this is just one), My mom has a set wash day. She has washed clothes every Wednesday (and still does) without fail; and now I find myself with a set wash day, every Tuesday, without fail..Why?

What kind of things do you do that you SWORE you would never do, yet you find yourself doing? Are you aware of it when you do it? Does it surprise you to catch yourself doing it or does it make you chuckle?

For those to young to have grown into becoming your parent(s), what do you swear you’ll never do?

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Neizvestnaya's avatar

A particular “mean mommy face” I used to hate. There’s one day I saw a celly pic someone took of me when I was cranky and I had the same face, it mortified me.

Sunny2's avatar

I find myself sitting like my mom used to. She sat on the couch with her forearms on her knees, reading from a magazine or something on the coffee in front of her. When I find myself in that position, I move immediately. I am proud of my good posture and sitting like that will not enhance my efforts to have a straight back. My mom would approve of my doing that. She was proud of my posture too.

mazingerz88's avatar

Great question!

1. I hated it when I was 10 and my mother would insist on teaching me how to clean the stove, wash the dishes and clean the sink just exactly the way she does it. I never did any of that until I got to college and lived in a house dorm where I ended up, without noticing it, washing dishes and cleaning the sink exactly as she would have done it! Now that’s how you brainwash somebody! ( no pun intended )

2. I easily get emotionally riled up rather quickly like my dad and I cuss exactly like him.

Berserker's avatar

I always told my dad that smoking was nasty shit and that I’d never do it. Alas. I’m also a real pushover, and let myself be stepped on, which comes from my dad’s hippy nature. Fortunately, I seem to have my mother’s psychotic genes to make up for it lol.

tranquilsea's avatar

Most of the things my mother used to say and do I’ve managed to avoid. She could be pretty abusive. She could be very intelligent, funny and engaging too.

I’ve been sitting here thinking and thinking and I cannot think of one thing I do that she did besides occasionally watch Jeopardy.

keobooks's avatar

My mom has always talked WAY too loud to be socially acceptable. I was embarrassed to discover that I’ve started doing that too. I had no idea. There is hope though. My mother suddenly stopped this “bad habit” out of the blue once she got hearing aids last summer. So perhaps I didn’t actually pick up her bad habit, I just inherited her hearing loss.

Gabby101's avatar

My mom cannot have a brief conversation if her life depended on it. No matter who she’s with or what she’s doing, if she sees someone that she knows, she has to stop and talk for way longer than is acceptable to the person she is with. I have caught myself doing this at work and realized that “OMgosh, I becoming my mom.”

Dutchess_III's avatar

Being caustic and necessarily rude. Once, when my oldest was about 8, I was upset with her about something, and was reading her the riot act. At one point she burst into tears and said, “Mom! You can be mad at me but you don’t have to hurt my heart!” Stopped me cold in my tracks. I turned a corner that day, and never did that again, that I know of. I hope. No one has accused me of it, anyway. Mom never stopped.

WasCy's avatar

I’ve spent my life trying to emulate the ideal models my parents set for me.

I could only wish to copy them.

I will say, though, that when my kids were young, I used a line on them that my mother had used on me when I wouldn’t finish some of my vegetables: “If you don’t finish that, then I’m going to give you more!”

Of course, from a strictly logical point of view, that line should never work. If I’m not going to eat ‘x’ quantity of vegetables, then I’m less likely to eat ‘x+y’. Nevertheless, if you’ve been forced to eat ‘x’ in the past, and you know that if there’s ‘x+y’ and you’ll have to eat that, too, then you hold your nose and eat the ‘x’.

Yeah, it worked for me, too.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Ach @WasCy! My folks never forced me to eat anything! I’m glad to say I passed that on to my kids too!

WasCy's avatar

Well, @Dutchess_III, I eventually found better ways.

I recall once getting a salad at a salad bar and putting raw broccoli and carrots on it. When I got up from the table to go back to the buffet, I told the kids sternly, “Don’t you dare touch my broccoli or carrots!”

The vegetables were all gone when I got back to the tables, and both of them grinning up at me impishly, Mom trying to hold her face together to keep from laughing out loud. It was all I could do not to grin back at them. Took them years to figure out what I had done.

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