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Did anyone not to go to Prom and didn't regret it?

Asked by emeraldisles (1949points) June 9th, 2011

People make such a big deal out of this event and make it seem like the be all, end all. I have absolutely zero desire in it for my own reasons, partly because a lot of people I know are homophobic, fake, and judgmental. I’m not being mean this is just the truth of what I have experienced way too many times myself. So did you not go to Prom and actually had a better experience doing something else?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I was asked by a boy in front of the class and turned him down.I don’t regret not letting someone put me on the spot like that.

Jude's avatar

I’m a lesbian and I went (with my boyfriend at the time). Honestly, for me, it wasn’t a big deal (if I didn’t go, no biggie). In fact, the prom part was lame. The parties afterwards were fun! We were doing hot knives and I passed out in my hugeass prom dress after drinking large Cedar Point glasses filled with Jack and Coke.

DeanV's avatar

Only don’t go if you have something better to do. Otherwise you might just end up sitting at home missing the social interaction.

Go to parties like @Jude said or just go out with other friends that aren’t going either.

emeraldisles's avatar

Okay that’s cool. I just don’t see what the big deal is about going especially if you have had terrible memories. I’m not even interested in anybody at all and I’m not going to apologize for my sexual orientation or let them know what it is because they are so hypecritical. Besides spending $700 on a dress and $ 200 on a limo like what my friend did is not my idea of having some fun.

JilltheTooth's avatar

I went to a girls’ school and had no prom. I never cared.

tedd's avatar

I didn’t go to prom either JR or SR year. Didn’t care one year, was incredibly heart broken at the time the other.

There were times in the following years I regretted it, but after a few years I could have cared less and don’t regret it at all today (a full 8+ years later).

snowberry's avatar

Prom for me happened in the 70’s. I had no date, and my mother set me up with what she thought was a nice boy. (His mom and my mom were friends, and he didn’t have a date either.) Turns out he was an egotistical pervert. Now I don’t care, but at the time I was outraged, and offended that I was gullible enough to let someone make my choices for me.

Mikewlf337's avatar

I didn’t go to my high school prom. I don’t even regret it. Some people acted like I missed out on the biggest thing in my high school experience. I didn’t give a flying you know what about the prom. I think it was more important to the girls than it was to the boys. I wasn’t the most popular guy in high school and I could have cared less what the “preferred” students were up to. To me the prom was meant for the popular students so everyone could put the most popular guy and girl in front of everyone and say that this is you “King” and “Queen”. On prime night. I sat home. Didn’t even give it a second thought. The Monday following prom weekend everyone was tired and acted like zombies. Some people were crying. They were so upset and I figured I didn’t miss much. In my school, the teachers, principals and other faculty members ignored what the “popular” students were doing. Those students had the run of the school and the events. One girl showed up drunk to school and what did she get for punishment? Nothing at all, not even a call to her parents. If I had done that, I would have been expelled. Why would I go to an event held in “honor” of the popular kids. I didn’t go to the prom, I don’t regret it, and to be honest. I never gave it a second thought about it much less regret it.

SofaKingWright's avatar

I didn’t go to prom. I went to a different country for my last two years of high school instead. Wouldn’t have turned that down to stay for prom!

Hacksawhawk's avatar

I don’t know wether you could call it prom here, but at least the partythingie that was supposed to celebrate the end of my high school career… Well, I didn’t go, and I’m saying this with a huge smile.
Apparently somebody got his face on fire at one of those after-parties…

minniemau5's avatar

I didn’t go to my prom, I worked the night of it instead. I was asked to go, but I don’t see the point of it. Here, girls spend hundreds of dollars on buying their dresses, hair, make-up, etc.. I have better ways to spend my money. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a social recluse – I enjoy parties. I just didn’t feel like going to this one, and I don’t regret it one bit!

crisw's avatar

Wasn’t asked, didn’t go, didn’t care, and it was so long ago as to be meaningless.

Haleth's avatar

Prom wasn’t that big of a deal. I bought a little black sequined dress for $17 off the sale rack, and looking back, it was a lot more appropriate for going to a night club than for going to prom. I went with a big group of girlfriends and the nicest thing about that night was hanging out with them and having fun. It was one of the last times we were all together before graduation, definitely a great memory. I don’t regret not having a date, a fancy dress, a limo, or any of that stuff. My high school was kind of a dump and the prom was pretty half-assed anyway.

Our gay straight alliance also organized an event with other GSAs in the area at around prom season, which was really nice. I think that smyal helped them organize it, if I remember right.

omfgTALIjustIMDu's avatar

I missed prom because it was on a Friday night and I came from a religious Jewish family so I couldn’t go. I don’t really care either way, I’m sure I would have had fun, but prom really isn’t the end-all-be-all of social interactions. There will always be other dinners and parties and places to put on a fancy dress where the people are more accepting and fun to be around.

beckk's avatar

I didn’t go to my senior prom this year, and I don’t regret it one bit.
I decided to go to a concert instead and I know I enjoyed myself way more than I would have if I went to prom.
For me, it just wasn’t worth it. I didn’t want to be surrounded by countless couples dancing and having a great time while I stood alone in corner somewhere.
It’s all about personal preference though.

raven860's avatar

I never went to it. Most of the people in my school were people just as you describe them. To even think I regret that decision is something I’d laugh at.

Nimis's avatar

Technically went to prom.
Then ditched it.
Get your mind out of the gutter.
We hung out at a park afterwards.
And “hung out” is not a euphemism. Sheesh.

Seeing as how we ditched it, no. Missing prom wasn’t a big deal.

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