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Is simplify another word for withdrawing from life?

Asked by JLeslie (65416points) June 11th, 2011

When things get stressful I have thoughts in my mind of not putting myself out there anymore. I guess it is kind of like agoraphobia, don’t interact with anyone, don’t pile on obligations, be a little more withdrawn, and have less stress.

Pulling back to have more quiet time and fewer obligations, also means interacting with people a little less most likely. Also, less need to go places and do things.

I never feel like I don’t want to be with people, but I definitely feel like I don’t want to be dissappointed by people, and at times I reach points where I’d like to avoid. Bad service at a doctor’s offices, trying to help someone and it gets complicated or they don’t value the help and it feels ungreatful. Or, maybe it is trying to start a new project and hitting an obstacle, not necessarily because of another person, but it just starts to feel like it would be better not to even start or try.

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Hibernate's avatar

Been there, done that. The void cannot be filled [ some try but after a while it’s all over again ].
People will disappoint a lot [ it’s our nature ] but sometimes they don’t even realize they do it, we just interpret that as disappointment.
When you feel like not wanting to be around people think of the situation with other eyes. Or just find different circles of people to hang around. [ when I feel like everyone around me agrees or disagrees with me I change the circle so there can be different opinions ].
To much time spent alone doesn’t do good either since the social skills deteriorate with time and one starts to feel unappreciated when doing things or when one finds that other do not see the situation in his/her point of view just quits.
I don’t think stress causes this but is more likely to just aggravate this problem since you start thinking way to much over it.

Withdrawing means quiting and when one quits he feels remorses later because he did not do all he could. Though a lot of the time is good to be alone and not have to hear all the bullsh*t others are saying.

Simplifying your life can improve some aspects while others will suffer.
You gotta take your pick ^^

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Not at all.It’s a good thing to do,IMO.
Some people can complicate the simplest things.Why??
I think it is best to enjoy things as they come,and not to stress about “mistakes” or things that haven’t even happened yet.
Mindfullness:))

ZEPHYRA's avatar

I wouldn’t say so. I think it’s more of a case of not expecting much, not putting out much of yourself, generally, the less said and done the better!

marinelife's avatar

Simplify just means cutting back on things.

Withdrawal from life is more complicated.

thorninmud's avatar

Well, it could be, of course. If it were just a matter of trying to pull back in order to create more “me” time or avoid facing challenges, I guess that would be the case.

Another way to go about it, though, is to weed out the number of things competing for one’s attention so that one can more fully engage in the important stuff. It’s an effort to more wisely allocate one’s attentional resources.

Cruiser's avatar

Life is all about navigating through the inevitable dreggs and sloths of life. If you do not take stock in your own ability to rise above these moments and challenges you will fall victim to self doubt and that can unnecessarily weigh you down. As if you don’t already have enough on your plate! Sheesh!

Just accept this as part of life and embrace the good qualities of yourself….I call this a self hug and remind yourself you have survived all that life has thrown at you so far and you can do it again. Each day is a new day full of BS and happiness! You just gotta remind yourself where the good stuff is hiding!

Have a great day @JLeslie!! Jellies love ya!

kess's avatar

Simplify is actually Living Life…..

Having no obligation except to those you have obligated yourself to….

Need not to do anything except the the things you yourself have seen a need to do..

Having nothing yet knowing that you have all possession….

Being satisfied in all and by all things is Life and the Living thereof…,

Porifera's avatar

@kess wise…you’ve said it :) GA+

mazingerz88's avatar

No. But only if you do not overdo it like Rip Van Winkle sort of ( Zzzzz…ngork…zzzz ) or Ebeneezer Scrooge ( Bah humbug! Ignore, ignore, out of sight out of mind, ignore, use less coal, ignore )

I worry when you said you don’t want to be disappointed with people since people are the most disappointing creatures in this world. Simplifying could also mean time for recharging inner strength in dealing with the world’s harsh realities. : )

filmfann's avatar

After my Mom died, we had to go thru all her things. It made me decide to make my new mantra “Less…”
I don’t want my kids to be burdened with going thru the endless amounts of crap I have accummulated.

SpatzieLover's avatar

No, simplifying is the realization that you are personally responsible for the stuff you’ve allowed to complicate your life. In general, those complications are caused by unnecessary “stuff”. Once you come to realize you deserve a better life with less stress, you can shed the stressors. You just need to figure out what those stressors are to you.

Examples of common solutions that can replace stressors:
*Routine in place of chaos
*Cleanliness instead of clutter
*Removing toxic family/friends from your life
*Setting boundaries and learning how to say “No” to things you know you don’t have time/energy for
*Reminding yourself to KISS (keep it simple stupid) in your daily activities or planned social events

Dutchess_III's avatar

It’s just taking a break..and you need one!

Dutchess_III's avatar

HEY!!! How’d it go last night?? You still with us?!

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