If there was a time you did not believe you were lovable, what impact did that have on your life?

Sometimes, no matter what someone else does, I don’t believe they love me. Generally, it takes some big fight for me to believe that they won’t abandon me as soon as the first problem shows up. I guess I don’t really believe in myself very much. Or I don’t believe that anything I do has any lasting value.

In my life, this makes me distrust people who say anything nice about me, or who love me. This is bad, of course, because then the people who really do love me believe I don’t trust them. That makes it hard for a relationship.

I’ve worked on this for a few years now, and I think I’ve come out of it, and then I fall back in. I thought I’d come to believe I was lovable, and then something happens, and it stops. I don’t even know what happens. It seems random.

So if you have a similar problem, what impact has it had on your life.

This is not about advice for me, please. I just want to know what it’s like for others.