Does anyone have to go through the annoying chat room secrecy with thier spouse/gf/bf/partner?

Talk to her, not us.

I’ve never really had to deal with this – my previous girlfriend barely knew what the Internet was. I think you should speak to her.

I do. But my dad doesn’t bother looking over shoulders. He just goes into the chat room itself without telling me…

thats some fishy business in my book. Talk to her about it.

You’re only “Paranoid” if it’s true…..

yeah when I’m in a relationship I don’t even really bother with the Internet just to make whoever I am with feel more secure with me. Maybe I’m to nice. But I hat the net when it gets into relationships. I’d tell her it seems pretty shady and you don’t feel comfortable and then if she continues I might do some investigating. If she had nothing to hide… She wouldn’t be trying to hide anything. Not to upset u or freak u out. I just think it sounds weird.

Talk to her about it! Ask her why. The reason she visits those chat rooms can be many, but whichever it is, it is to fill a gap in her life, whether it’s a side of her she doesn’t let out on a daily basis, social interaction, someone to confide in, or flirting. If you’re to have any chance of a lasting relationship, you need to know what’s going on with her and see if it’s a gap you can help her fill.