(NSFW) I can't always make my girlfriend finish?
So here’s the thing, I am 18 and my girlfriend is coming up 17. Now more often than not the sex is great and she ejaculates but only once or twice, it really gets me down because I think perhaps I’m doing something wrong. I’ve never had complaints from previous partners and she has told me that previously I have made her ejaculate lots and even reached an orgasm. I don’t think I’m doing anything different so why is it she seems to have these ‘off days’? Anyone? Answers much appreciated.
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Ejaculating among women is not the common thing. 18, previous partners, orgasm? You could write a book for the older guys. Yeah, general, bye, bye.
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She’s probably pregnant and soon to birth your child.
Once or twice per day / night when you have sex or she only did it once or twice since you started having sex ?
Ejaculation doesn’t mean orgasm. The important part is to get her to orgasm (and have fun along the way), not to get her to ejaculate.
Have all your previous partners (though there ought not to have been that many seeing as how you’re 18) been able to ejaculate? Female ejaculation is relatively rare. Like @MyNewtBoobs said, the goal should be orgasm, not ejaculation. At most, only about 30–40% of women (according to the Wiki article) have had the experience of gushing ejaculation, and even for those women who are “squirters”, it doesn’t happen all the time. If you’re trying to make it happen every time you have sex, you’ve got quite the challenge ahead of you, methinks.
Perhaps you should try and make her Dutch or Swedish instead?
When I was younger it was very common for me to squirt, but as I got older it didn’t happen as much. I wasn’t able to do so during sex, possibly for the reason many women don’t think they do, because I thought I had to urinate. Eventually it was my ex that got me to squirt during sex and it was a challenge even then. He made me orgasm each time, I just didn’t ejaculate. With me, when I ejaculate I have an orgasm, but I don’t ejaculate every time I have an orgasm.
To this day it’s still rare for me to squirt during sex. The partner I have now is great in bed and I always have great orgasms, but sometimes I just don’t squirt. It can also do with hydration beforehand as well.
There are lots of factors to this, it really doesn’t have anything to do with you.
Can i just add that the ‘goal’ of sex is not primarily to make your girl/boyfriend or yourself reach orgasm but to have fun foremost and be one.
All these answers have helped a lot and put my mind at rest a great deal, but what is the best way to discover what pleasures her so i can make sure she is not dissapointed at the end of intercourse?
@Skadoodle – @rebbel is exactly right. Ask her. If you can’t talk frankly and honestly about sex with her, you shouldn’t be having it.
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