My boyfriend has a certain way of thinking. Is this right?

Sounds like a possessive jerk. DTMFA.

No, he’s not right. Not at all, I don’t agree even a little. A man who cares about you won’t call you a whore, particularly not for something that is harmless and non-sexual as a regular massage. Has he called you names like that before? Does he have a temper? Has he ever pushed, shoved or hit you?

no. Are you also a whore for going to a Doctor? Or to the locker room at the gym?

He needs help. Help you can’t provide him. Dump him now. You can’t change him.

He’s wrong.
I agree with the others.—He sounds scarily possessive.

He sounds like a control freak with a lot of hang-ups. Be careful; this kind of guy can easily justify hitting you because “you were asking for it.”

He’s a potential, if not already, control freak. Breaking up is by far the best route you can take, but be weary, control freaks can react violently to something like this.

In addition to what everyone else has said, he also sounds like a jerk-off.

It would probably honestly do you a lot of good to put a lot of distance between you and this guy.

And then get your much-deserved massage. : ]

He truly sounds awful. I would get very angry with anyone who told me I was a whore. It is even less acceptable as he is your boyfriend.
I would give him the boot if I were you. . .

And I might ask, were you ASKING him for permission to spend your $60 get a massage? If you weren’t, why does it matter to him how you spend your money? Why does he feel entitled to give his ignorant opinion?

Does this guy have shares in the manufacture of burkas?

And welcome to Fluther.

Can you enlighten us why he might feel this way? For example, what is his background? What country is he from and what is his family like? Has he had other partners?

I think he is a jerk.

That is not right in the least. Not one little bit.

Even a certain amount of jealousy and possessiveness should be withheld out of politeness and “benefit of the doubt”. To express his displeasure so strongly and negatively is beyond the pale.

Not only do I agree that you should ditch him, but you should do it very carefully, and don’t turn your back on him.

And yeah, Welcome to Fluther. (There’s nothing like starting out with a big splash!)

Oh, yes. Welcome to Fluther. I’m kinda new, too.

He’s a selfish asshat for not offering a full body massage of his own and don’t waste anymore time in getting that massage your deserve.

No it’s not right. There is no reason to call you a whore for getting a massage. Are there other aspects of your life that he tries to control? Is it often? How do you feel when he does this? Maybe you should rethink your relationship with him if you have found him to be controlling to the point that you are uncomfortable and choosing the things you tell him.

What? You have to ask – well, that is a controlling, ignorant, judgmental, non-trusting thing to say and it is totally wrong. Get away, get far away – NOW.

Go out with his hotter brother/friend and then have mutual massage with new boy. Problem solved.

This is the kind of guy who will beat you and then try to make you feel like you deserved it.

Not only is it not right, it’s downright ridiculous. No way in hell would I stay with him.