Bachelor and Bachelorette party ideas!

All of my cousins have had family oriented co-ed parties, so they were more like a shower (only not formal or dainty), but they had potluck barbecue wingdings that were very fun. Then after the family party, any of the younger folk who wanted to, could go with the couple for a few drinks and dancing at a club. They hired a limo or someone or several people went along as the designated drivers. They did not go to a strip club, just a regular fun dance club. Thankfully, none of my relatives are into that kind of thing, they are all very family oriented (we have a huge family with lots of little ones) and we all enjoy cooking and entertaining.

I would suggest something like a wine and cheese tasting, or a dessert party. One of my cousins had a friend who was going to culinary school, so she paid her friend to cater her party and it was one of the most memorable parties of all, the food was soooooooo good. And her friend got valuable experience.

Oh Dear, I just read your other 2 questions and I’m very worried for your safety. The red flags are waving in your face. Please re-consider marrying this fellow. He sounds very abusive and you sound like you are willing to take his abuse, because you either don’t know any better, or you’ve heard other people act like this (maybe family members) and it seems normal to you.

Dear, your boyfriend’s behavior, the name calling and his controlling attitude are not normal and if you stay with him, his mean behavior is going to escalate, and he’s likely to start hitting you, if he hasn’t already. I’m guessing that he’s already told you that you drive him to yell at you and he’s mad because you did something wrong to make him angry.

One of my close girlfriends is in a very similar situation, except that she actually married him and now her family and some of us are trying to mount an intervention to get her away from him before he injurs or kills her or simply destroys her sense of self. He already destroyed her sense of self-worth.

It does not matter how far along you are with your wedding plans or how much money you have shelled out so far. The only important thing is your safety and well being and if you marry this man, you will not be safe and you will have an ugly, horrific life ahead of you. Call off this wedding ASAP and see if you can get into some short term counseling to help you deal with the loss, and figure out why you are not seeing the signs.

Please look at this site which lists the traits of an abusive personality Your boyfriend seems to fit the bill. I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Please don’t even consider marrying him. He needs help.

@ambermarie183 Hi noobie. I am not sure if you know where you are, and how much time you’ve taken to read our answers – it seems like you enjoy posting questions – and completely ignoring our replies. People, myself included, have taken the time to explain, and re-explain things to you – the one who asked us – and yet you are completely ignoring both the advice – and the people trying to help. You won’t help yourself that way, and you won’t make any friends here that way. Think of it as crying wolf.

Nope , sorry I had strippers in my stag weekend, so did she on her Hen weekend, it’s tradition in our neck of the woods…… we did the enactments on the wedding night Lol….. ;-) but were more hands on…….
You could just settle for a tea party :-/

Agree with @zen and @Kardamom. Please, please please take our advice and dump this guy. He’s really bad news.

Horseshoes.