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Have you ever had a tough time forgiving yourself for your actions from the past?

Asked by raven860 (2174points) July 6th, 2011

For example I feel like I betrayed myself because essentialy I let a situation overcome me even though I knew better. Maybe it was the stress? but I am not sure if that is a reason or excuse

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Aethelwine's avatar

Of course. Even after the person I hurt forgave me, I still can’t forgive myself. I still think about how stupid I was and wish I could take my actions back. I am very thankful though. and try to curb the bad feelings that come from my actions. There is nothing good that comes from living in the past.

Cruiser's avatar

I know what you are going through and feel your pain…bottom line and IMO it is a big mistake to run a huge guilt trip over your past actions. Those moments I embrace as teachable moments and if there is opportunity to go back and make amends then do it but also be aware of the reason(s) it happened in the first place. Many times they are a bit of a slippery slope!

Hibernate's avatar

Yes and it’s normal .. it takes time to forgive yourself in some situations .

Indeed do not let yourself spend to much time with the guilt .

janbb's avatar

Yes – there are two or three actions in my life that I can not forgive myself for. I don’t dwell on them any more and have tried to make amends, but I am very sorry that I did them.

jess2525's avatar

of course, though what I found helps is to try and view it from different perspectives. Identify what you could and couldn’t control and what you learnt. Even from the worst of situations we can learn a lot about ourselves. There will always be a place deep down for that regret, you just try to live your life as best as you can.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Forgiveness for others AND for oneself is one of the best things a human can do.

stardust's avatar

Yes, absolutely. I’m still in the process of trying to forgive myself for past actions.

nebule's avatar

like @stardust I’m still trying to forgive myself – I have to make a choice every day to forgive myself and it’s not easy and I rarely make it.

raven860's avatar

Thank you all for your answers and show of support.

I have been through many peaks and valleys however this time I feel stuck. I have also some other problems going; maybe its just that I have forgotten how fun things used to be when I was above all this and I just need to live some of it to want it again.

Anyhow, hope you guys get through it soon!

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