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Does long distance work?

Asked by coffeejunk (25points) April 29th, 2008

do long distance relationships work? has it ever worked for you?

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wildflower's avatar

Long distance between questions does not seem to work

Sloane2024's avatar

I’m in a long distance relationship with an Indian right now. Its the hardest yet most amazing thing I’ve ever done. He’s attending Emory in the fall & I’m going to a math & science high school in Mississippi. His parents despise the thought of us dating & it seems as if the whole world is against us, but we’ve promised to remain true & love each other until the end. If you truly want it more than anything, it doesn’t matter how difficult circstances become, you can persevere & make it work. Its all up to you & your partner.

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scamp's avatar

copied and pasted from the other thread

You can make some great friends on the internet if you are very careful, but as far as having another type of relationship, it may be fun for awhile, but it probably won’t work long term. The reason I say this is because you are falling in love with a voice, or words on a screen, not a real person. This isn’t saying the person you are talking to isn’t real, but like Niki said, it’s kind of like having an imaginary friend.

I talked online to my present SO for close to a year before we met. We thought we knew each other because of all the things we said online and on the phone, but once we met, I was surprised at how much more I had to learn about him. People are very different when they have the anonymity of the internet to hide behind. They can tell you anything they THINK you want to hear, and hide what they don’t want you to know about them.

In some ways, it makes it even harder to get to know someone because when you meet, you have all these pre-concieved notions about what the person is like, and it strains the relationship because you have to start all over again to really get to know each other. I think it’s in your best interest to just be friends with this guy, and look for someone who is nearby. At your age, you shouldn’t tie yourself down to someone who is available to you in real life. You can’t go to the movies or out to dinner with your computer screen.

In summary, freindships can work, but love relationships are very difficult at best, and can be very dangerous.

loser's avatar

so… tired… of… this… question…

coffeejunk's avatar

sorry but i did not ask if some stupid online stuff.. whatever.

scamp's avatar

This question has been asked many times before. You might want to look at some of the other threads and read the answers on them. Your question wasn’t very specific, so if you’d like to add some details we would be happy to discuss them, and not some “stupid online stuff.” You can find the other threads here:

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Ursi's avatar

It works for some for awhile. I know people how finally moved into the same house or town and didn’t last.

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