(NSFW) Can you please help ease my concerns?

Asked by anonman (99) July 13th, 2011

Hi guys, sorry to violate the rules a little on this one, but I need some anonymity. Not from you guys, many of you will be able to figure out who I am. I just need some anonymity from the real world on this one. Yea, shit is about to get interesting.

I am a male, and had sex with a female last night. Sloppy, pathetic drunken sex.

I am now in favor of abstinence only, as I am shit scared that I have everything from herpes to full blown AIDS, to full blown AIDS phobia.

Last night, a girl sucked on my penis for about 30 minutes with no condom. I have no idea where she has been, and know for a fact that some STD or more precisely, STIs can be ttransmittedby men from being given oral sex.

I also had vaginal sex with her, however for this I used a condom. and that only really lasted for a few minutes. Having said that, The condom did slip at one point, and my penis got mushed up against the outside of her vagina.

I also fingered her some, mainly in the vagina.

She also finished me off with her hand and no protection.

I also touched my self a bit, in fact the end was more of a co-op thing.

WTF is wrong with me. FML.

In 3–4 months I will go and get my self tested for STDs and STIs, and will do nothing until then.

However, until then I need some piece of mind. If I show any symptoms I will obviously go get checked sooner.

Please verify for me that the information I have is correct…

I am at low risk of any STD at this point, as only a few STDs can be infected by being given oral sex. (deep oral sex, chlamydia can reside in the throat.)

I am at low risk because even one off unprotected vaginal sex with a known HIV positive person, will only infect the male 1 of 10 times, and I used 99% efficient protection when I went anywhere near the vagina.

I am at low risk because I was not penetrated by another man, ingested fluids, or did anything with my mouth other than some nipple and neck.

I am at low risk because only 1% of the population have an STD at any given time (even if they are a raging slut), it does not always transmit, and I was partly protected.

I have cause for concern, and should get my self checked for everything, twice, in 3–4 months time.

To make things worse, she is now bombarding me with calls for more sex, even though I have explained to her that I don’t think we should do anything sexual together until 3–4 months time until we have both been tested.

Should I really be that worried at this point?

Also, what the fuck is wrong with me? am I missing something in my life? am I just a small and stupid person?

@cruiser answered one of my questions the other day in a way that kind of hinted that there could be something wrong with me. I would specially like to hear what @cruiser has to say regarding the last paragraph.

Is it a mid life crisis or something? at 28?

I’m sure some of you have figured out by my writing style, @cruiser must have certainly figured out who I am, and all the mods or admins with access to IP’s and such absolutely know who I am, but please do me a solid on this one guys. Don’t mention my username or link to anything to do with my main account. I could have used a proxy, I could have covered my tracks, but as I said, It’s not you I’m trying to be anonymous from. Its non-fluther uses. I’m trusting you guys on this one.

Finally, I am putting this in the social section, because I don’t want anything to be moderated, but I am looking for serious answers. Also, yes, it is ok to laugh and mock, even I find the idea of me dropping dead from AIDS in a few years time funny, all be it on some dark fucked up level.

Anyway, lets have at it…

p.s. I have a dull ache at the base of my cock from being jerked off too rough, but it is not helping me ease the STD fears one bit.