Which event to choose?

The latter.

B. It’s unfortunate that you have to cancel plans with either group, but I would have to choose the plan that is unchanged.

B – I’d stick with the agreed upon restaurant outing and forego the picnic. I would, of course, send my regrets to the A group.

B.

B

Beeeeeeeee!

B.

I’m delighted at the unanimity expressed here. The person chose A, and as a member of the B party I was a bit miffed to be blown off like that, as all the rest of us had agreed to Sunday (which was not the most convenient for us) out of deference for the person’s previous Saturday picnic plans. I was accused of being over-sensitive because I was annoyed, but I figured that basic good manners would have dictated that she choose B, as well.
Thanks, all.

nevermind, I was going to say A

;)

Dinner on Sunday unless of course picnic group is a savage fun bunch of people!

@Cruiser : savagely funner than me? Careful how you answer that, fella!

@JilltheTooth “deference for the person’s previous Saturday picnic plans” Whoa ! That takes it into new territory. Considerring that you planned the dinner on Sunday for their sake, there is no excuse for the person not to go to dinner with you.

I would choose B for the simple reason that I would not care to convey to this group of friends that an unscheduled event with other friends (A) mattered more to me than a prior commitment to them (B).

Now that you know this about that person, you’ll also know not to go out of your way to accommodate her schedule limitations in the future. If she can’t make it, too bad.

What @Jeruba said. This person is telling you they like the other friends a lot better, so they don’t mind snubbing your group. She is not a person I would spend much time on in the future.

What’s kinda funny is if the weather is bad tomorrow and the picnic is cancelled again. She missed her chance at doing anything.

I’m curious, would you feel different if the picnic had been a planned family event that needed a rain date instead of a different group of friends that needed rescheduling?

just wondering

Try to get a solution to see both group of friends. But if I was to choose I’d ask the best friends to excuse me that I have to see other people. I’d ask them because they understand it better.

If all things were, indeed, equal, I’d go with option B. But can you really be sure that all things are equal? Maybe the picnic involves a friend that hasn’t been seen in ages, is for a specific (time-sensitive) purpose, or has some other particular importance attached to it that the dinner group isn’t aware of.

C. Blow off A & B, and then have a party in me pants. ;-o

I’d do whichever sounded like more fun.

I’m not too pc personally!

I asked her the stuff about people she rarely saw, etc etc, and no that wasn’t it. Her reason was that she had made some food for the picnic that she didn’t want going to waste. She lives close by someone else who was going to the picnic, and they could have taken the food, but she didn’t want to ask them.

Well, boo on her, then. :/