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Did you consider your older or younger sibling to be prettier or wiser than you were?

Asked by Bellatrix (21249points) July 29th, 2011

This question was inspired by a conversation between myself and another jelly about the way we perceived our older and/or younger siblings. For instance, I always looked up to my older sister and thought of her as smarter and so much more sophisticated than me. Similarly to my mind, my younger sister was prettier than I was. Neither of these thoughts was negative. I wasn’t jealous of them but rather I admired them. Did you have a similar relationship with your siblings? If you did, how did you look up to your brother or sister? Or if you didn’t how did you view them when you were a child?

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Schroedes13's avatar

My brother is 19 years older than me. I have always considered and still consider him to be a very smart cookie (he’s not really a cookie :P). He has been one of the greatest role models in my life.

Hibernate's avatar

I never pondered on this. I do recall I had better grade at school but my younger brother had other things where he excelled. But it didn’t matter since we were a team so if someone said something good about one of us it made both of us feel good. When someone had a brawl with one of us it made the other mad. I should ask him though just to see how he interpreted most of these.

marinelife's avatar

I admired their smarts. I thought they were prettier.

Schroedes13's avatar

I forgot about the physical appearance part. My brother and I look a lot alike. He is dead sexy!

tinyfaery's avatar

I’m way cuter than my sister, I’m also the smart one. Just happened that way.

ragingloli's avatar

No. I was the first and best. It all went downhill from there for my siblings. Steeply. It must be added that my siblings were all fathered by my stepfather and I had a different biological “inseminator”.

QueenOfNowhere's avatar

No to both. His philosophy is not like mine. I believe (even if it’s not true) that my life has a purpose (I’m not religious at all) and that everything happens for a reason. He rejects to think about anything. It’s weird. He is 10 years older than me and he is a fan of Nietzsche. So I guess smarter won’t work. Depends on who is looking at it.

MrItty's avatar

My brother is 7 years younger than me. He is much more handsome than I, but I’m fairly certain I’m the more intelligent. I have no problem with this.

aprilsimnel's avatar

No to both.

I was raised with my cousin as if he were my brother. He’s almost 2 years older. When I was a kid, I thought he might be more street smart than me, then I realized as a teenager that he really wasn’t. If he did have any super smarts academically, I never saw them. He wasn’t dumb, but he was always trying to be cool in front of “his boys” and he ran with a crowd of punks that disdained school. I pulled in good grades without trying, and that pissed him off lots.

As for looks, there’s a big difference in our appearances, so there’s really no comparison in terms of attractiveness. As it is, today, from what I understand, I look probably 20 years younger than he does.

Seelix's avatar

My sister is 7 years older than I am. I always thought she was the coolest, prettiest, smartest person I knew. I wanted so badly to be her, especially when she was about 13 or 14 when she was way too cool to talk to her little sister. That stopped for a while when she hit her later teens and started to get in big trouble with my parents.

We didn’t get along well until I hit about 18 or so. That was when she was living in Japan and I spent a month with her there – we realized how alike we are (and some say we look alike, too, but I don’t see it as much as others do). Over the next few years, I saw her go through some bad relationships and a long period where she needed to find herself and learn to love herself for who she is – not for who she’s with.

I no longer blindly admire her just because she’s my cool big sister – I realize that she has her faults like everyone does, and I admire her because she’s created the kind of happy life she deserves. She has a great job, a beautiful house, and two weeks ago she married a great man.

filmfann's avatar

I have an older sister (not saying which one) who is the most comely of the 4 kids.
My younger brother is the smartest of the 4 of us. He wasted his youth, well, wasted. He now has a real good job, and pulls down a quarter million a year, but without that misstart, he could have gone much further.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Similarly to @ragingloli‘s story, the looks and intelligence seemed to have started out well and dropped a couple of degrees with each child. Unfortunately, I am #4 of four. The good news is that our parents never showed favoritism for one over the other.

There is a 14 year age gap between the oldest and me. They all treated me well, and I looked up to each of them. The hardest part was getting them to see me as an adult and to stop treating me as a child. The brother still does, but I’ve come to discover that he does this with everyone, so I try not to take offense.

Bart19's avatar

I have three younger sisters ( 17, 15 and 13) and I am the oldest and only boy (19). The middle one is the smartest and the prettiest too (We always tease her for getting the good genes) but my oldest sister is a social butterfly and very good in organizing and the youngest one is very good in practical things and an amazing cook.

During my childhood I didn’t reallly look up at them but I am the oldest and not of the same gender so I guess that’s normal. I was protective in a brotherly kind of way but now they are teenagers and I moved abroad so it all changed.

SuperMouse's avatar

Since I only have older brothers I never thought of them as prettier than me, but I do think of all of them as smarter than I am.

Jude's avatar

We’re both cute. We’re both pretty smart. I would say that she is a bit smarter, though.

We look a lot alike. We both look like Mom (when she was younger).

OpryLeigh's avatar

My younger brother was always the more popular one and he was very popular with the opposite sex (I wasn’t) so I guess he was more attractive. He certainly isn’t wiser than me though!

tranquilsea's avatar

People used to look at my mom and dad and ask just how they managed to have such good looking children lol. How’s that for a backhanded compliment?

I look a lot like my sisters but I’m the smartest and that brought me a ton of grief for years.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Yes. I have an older brother I consider wiser and “lighter” than I. He has been able to embrace the cards dealt him in order to become a very happy father, husband and active family member. I envy him for that but don’t feel jealousy.

El_Cadejo's avatar

No, I was the first. I took all the good genes and then took a shit in the gene pool as I was leaving.

I actually did shit before they took me out via c-section

wundayatta's avatar

Of course, my sister is prettier than I am. If you called me pretty, I would probably tell you you had the mentality of a potato chip. A chip I had crushed under my boot heel.

Intelligence… I’d say that’s pretty much a draw all the way around. (I have a younger brother and sister). Although, since we have different careers, we have different skill sets.

YARNLADY's avatar

I always considered she was the pretty one and I was the smart one. Once during a conversation with my aunt, she said she always felt sorry for my sister, because I got it all, the good looks and the smarts.

My sister is one year younger than I am.

DominicX's avatar

Nah, I’m definitely better-looking than my brothers :)

I have admired my brother Justin’s musical ability however—his command of piano and guitar, perfect pitch…I’ve always been a little jealous of that. And my brothers are also more science/math oriented than I am. My sister is pretty much speaks French fluently, which is more than can be said for me. My youngest brother is definitely the most athletic and is a pretty talented skateboarder.

As for smarts, I’m not sure. My siblings have different fields of expertise so it’s not always easy to compare, but I was the one who earned the highest grades and am going to the “best” college (I’m just being honest)...I’ve always sort of been under the impression that I was the smartest and most attractive, though we’re all up there ;P And I am pretty cocky :)

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