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Am I overreacting about a lap dance?

Asked by evry1luvzaazngrl (268points) August 5th, 2011

This guy I’ve been seeing asked me to be his girlfriend while we were in Las Vegas. Right when we made things official we realized we were late to our friends’ bachelor and bachelorette party. I didn’t feel right that we just made things official and separated to go to strip clubs. The girls paid for my lap dance from a male stripper and it was okay. I didn’t feel turned on or anything. They don’t get naked or grind on you really. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it was like movies I’ve seen where it was way raunchier.

Anyways, I came back to the hotel room to find him passed out on the bed with a Mike Tyson tattoo drawn on his face. It was pretty funny but I was a little upset that this was how our relationship started off. He threw up at the strip club in the bathroom and they had to carry him back to the hotel.

Today I found out from his friends that a stripper’s bare boobs were on his face. I didn’t know with lap dances they could do that…put their private parts on a guy’s face with skin to skin contact. I wasn’t so much upset about a lap dance but yea it really bothered me that they could just put their vagina and boobs in your face which is nasty.

Is it a bad idea if I casually let him know how that made me feel? Is it wrong to say we both shouldn’t get lap dances from this point on? He’s planning his friend’s bachelor party along with three other guys. I know he wouldn’t pay for a lap dance but his friends would be encouraging him and buy him one….

I won’t mind if he goes to strip clubs and I wouldn’t mind going with him as a couple but I think the bare boobs on his face is a little too much =\

By the way that was his first time getting a lap dance (paid by friends). Apparently he was on the verge of passing out while getting it according to everyone. He claims he thinks strip clubs are a waste of money…he normally doesn’t go unless it’s a bachelor party. So it shouldn’t be too much a deal to ask him to not get a lap dance right?

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