Single guys: Do you have a female friend that you lean on as you might a girlfriend or wife?
I’ve always had far more male friends than female friends over the years, and I notice a pattern with my single (hetero) guy friends. They always seem to come with their emotional woes, their frustrations over being single, and usually a handful of flirty come-ons.
It has happened often enough that I refer to it (in my head) as being the “substitute girlfriend.”
Guys, do you have a female friend that you find yourself leaning on emotionally or flirting with, when you’re single, even if you have no intention (or perhaps option) of ever dating her?
Ladies, do you have a similar experience?
Just to be clear, I’m not complaining. I love my friends, and I think those that I have in mind are great guys who deserve to find someone that they love… it’s just an interesting phenomenon to me. I wonder if anyone else has noticed something similar.
And please, if you have a story that turns the tables, feel free to share that as well.
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No, but that could have something to do with the fact that I initially asked my partner out because I could talk to her all the time. I guess she is that friend.
Yes, I did have female friends like that but without the flirting. It’s such a wonderful thing to have great female buddies! I treasured these relationships. Too bad we are now separated by an ocean these past years.
I have a couple – I love female company as much as I like male company. It has been usually ex girlfriends in the past, but lately I don’t really have any.
I have never really had a female “friend” for the sake of friendship – I believe in the When Harry met Sally theory.
A couple here – in Fluther and online – to a certain extent.
I’ve never seen that movie. :\
I have a lot of friends like that. It is just how I interact with people.
Missed the part earlier about this being directed at single guys. Oh well, my comment has merit, I think.
I do have quite a few male friends…strictly platonic that I love very much. I have always had male friends (both gay and straight) and yes, they come to me for all sorts of advice. I don’t feel at all like a “substitute girlfriend” because I don’t think of them at all romantically. I am more like a “sister”.
However (don’t know if you have experienced this?) when you go out with one of said friends…everyone assumes that you are together and this does not help dating. I threaten to wear a button that says, “I am NOT with HIM.” lol Sometimes, I will just say, “Okay, when we get there…._please go mingle elsewhere…preferably not within forty feet of me.” It’s a running joke.
I just flirt…I don’t necessarily lean on them as a girlfriend/wife.
Yes, and I would pick them over a long-term relationship anyday!! Friends are always there for you, and having a best friend who is also a girl is very helpful for both of us.
Platonic friendships make the world go round! :)
Yes, I have female friends that I lean on sometimes about my frustrations. Its a two-way streak, they listen to my problems and I listen to theirs. They’re better than guy friends just because they understand what girls think like.
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