Does a child who is misbehaved deserve to do whatever they please?

Is this an offshoot of all those other Qs?

Of course kids should be disciplined. Some parents don’t care because some parents aren’t good parents. Anyone can have a kid so of course you are going to have bad parents, good parents, and everything in between.

Err, do bears shit in the woods? Yes that’s right, it’s a no brainer alert!!

No, this is just a question that has been bugging me.

Some parents might not care because they were neglected by their parents too.
Or maybe just because they didn’t want a kid in the first place.

And since a kid senses these things he’ll just try to get attention until someone notices him.

Give them a thick ear & if that don’t work, give them another thick ear…...

Bring them to England, then they can do what they want to who they want. And get a pay out from the Government for doing it.

no.

Is this a question where you are just looking to hear the answer that you expect you’re going to get? In other words, you know the answer is “no” and you know most, if not all people are going to say “no.”

No. If I were their parent, they would listen to me without question, obey me accordingly, and respect me and their mother at all times. It shouldn’t be a 50/50 relationship between parents and their kids. I’m not my children’s “buddy”—-I’m their father, the one who takes care of them, provides for them, and protects them. I love them unconditionally, with all my heart, and I’m there for them all the time, but in return they must behave as my children, not as “little friends”.

I think the reason why some parents don’t care is because they’re like kids themselves. They are afraid to be parents and dish out discipline and authority, and would rather take the liberal approach of being their children’s “bosom buddies” than being responsible adult parents. American society has this problem of being overly concerned with “individual rights”, to the extent that the rights of children override the rights of adults to mete out their proper parental duties. That in itself is wrong.

Parenting is a very difficult task. Very few people have a natural talent for it.

Each child requires a different type of training, and it is only through trial and error that we find out what works best.

Many parents do not have the patience to discover what does work, and the child does not receive the type of training he/she needs. There is no single answer that works, so children are left on their own.

@MRSHINYSHOES unless there has been some punishment somewhere along the line you are not going to have a child who obeys and respects you and their mother at all times. Kids are designed to test their boundaries and push things as far, maybe farther than they should, they are not programed to behave they way they are expected to, that must be trained.

To answer the question though, yeah a misbehaving child should be punished.

Thanks to @SuperMouse I just re-read @MRSHINYSHOES‘s answer, and got a chuckle out of “they would listen to me without question and obey me accordingly.” Writing like that, he is DEFINITELY not a parent!

No child should do “whatever they please.”

Not under my roof… I’ll bump them hard enough that they’ll identify the cause.. Most parents have been brought up fearing restitution from the law in what ever punishment is served.. It’s really pathetic.. True, you don’t beat or damage them but they look for this punishment, they actually need it, otherwise how do they know if what their doing is wrong? Time outs don’t work.. Sending them to their room won’t work.. Their just like us only they haven’t been (properly) shown the errors of their way thus they don’t recognize the wrong and will only get worse until they become a part of the prison system.

I’m still trying to understand the point of this question.