General Question

bradgpa's avatar

How can I gain my confidence back?

Asked by bradgpa (15points) May 9th, 2008 from iPhone

After a long relationship I am having trouble getting back into dating. I get nervous and have trouble talking to girls. Is there any way to get past this or is it that I am just rusty cause I haven’t dated in years.?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

5 Answers

wildflower's avatar

Start slow. A little flirting can be a great confidence booster. Go to a cafe or park and try to make eye contact with some people….if someone looks back and smiles, there’s your instant boost.
Also, go get yourself a little make-over. New clothes and a fresh hair-cut can work wonders too.

scamp's avatar

It’s just like riding a bike. You may start out kind of wobbly because it’s been awhile, but keep on peddling and it will all come back to you. Good luck!

beware's avatar

Go into a busy shopping centre and scream at the top of your voice “I am what I am.” Then run.

NeroCorvo's avatar

DO- go out expecting just to have fun and nothing more.

Do NOT worry about saying the right thing or the wrong thing- it it is meant to be it will be.

Do NOT expect every date to become a relationship- the truth is that most will not.

Do RELAX- when you are worried about blowing it then you will.

Remember: If you are visibly nervous then your date will be uncomfortable.

Relax Relax Relax!

Have FUN!

Bri_L's avatar

Be polite. Be genuine. Be interested in them. Realize that you have value. There is no reason they should make you anymore nervous than you them. Stand tall my friend.

You have the opportunity to be EXACTLY who you are every time you meet a new girl. It is truly exciting if you think about it. All the past relationships you have had where you may have compromised part of yourself, now just be who you are. Be honest.

If she isn’t for you, that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or here. Keep that in mind. Just keep being you. The joy you will find when it is right will be unbelievable.

Good luck buddy.

Answer this question




to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther