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Can you have more than one true love in your life?

Asked by OliviaYR (241points) October 24th, 2011

Maybe to love someone and to be in love someone is different, but there is this quote by Johnny Depp:
“If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.”
Is this true?

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Blackberry's avatar

I think so, yes. Denying that people can have excellent chemistry and compatibility with more than two people seems ridiculous, but of course it’s not about that. You’ll always have to pick one.

Linda_Owl's avatar

One can have more than one “true” love in your life, but generally these do not occur at the same time. You can love someone deeply & lose them to either death or divorce. Then later you may fall in love again & have another relationship that is just as strong.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I know I have so yes, for me.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Yep. I don’t think “love” is as mysterious and spiritual as many people feel. I’m not saying it isn’t intense and deep, and very special.. but, to me, it isn’t this magical experience that only comes once in a lifetime. That fairy tale stuff should stay in fairy tales, if you ask me.
However, that isn’t what I get from Depp’s quote. I don’t think he is saying you can’t have more than one true love, he’s saying that if you really love the first person… you wouldn’t be involved in a second emotional entanglement as deep as the quote implies.

filmfann's avatar

I have fully and honestly loved 3 women. I still love them all, but I see the flaws in the relationships I had with the 2 I loved before my wife.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I believe in it.

john65pennington's avatar

Thats a big 10–4. I just thank my lucky stars that I did not marry the first girl I was engaged to. If I had, I would have missed out on the true love of my life…....my wife.

smilingheart1's avatar

I have a friend who has wrung himself out trying to win requitement of love from his wife of many years who has mental illness. He still loves her and is standing by her but he also has come to love another person who can be present to him. He seems comfortable and without conflict at the heart level. I don’t really understand this.

Sunny2's avatar

I think you can feel strong love for more than one person. You may love them for different reasons. You love more than one of your children, more than one of your friends. The bond may be stronger between you and your spouse, but it doesn’t exclude other relationships.

zensky's avatar

Semantically, no.

janbb's avatar

I don’t think there is only one love for each person and I think you can truly love more than one person. It is easier if it is not at the same time time though.

martianspringtime's avatar

I don’t see why it can’t be possible.
A lot of people say “definitely not” as if they’re citing some kind of book of rules on the subject but I don’t know where they found it. I just think it’s not a very common thing because once people fall in love they aren’t looking for another true love. They’re content with the one they have.

whitetigress's avatar

You can have two true loves. But you want let your self have them at the same time. My grandfather loved his first wife very much, from her came my auntie and mother. But she (my grandmother) died when my mom was around 8 years old. My grandfather later in life married my second grandma who was a very loving person. Her name was Rose. He loved her very much, and tattooed her name.

cazzie's avatar

I don’t believe in ‘one true love’. It’s a silly fantasy fed to us by culture. I think we love people. We love one person deeply and then something can happen and we don’t any more and we move on. We can’t love someone instantly. We can be attracted to them and be infatuated with them and we think we’re ‘in love’ because we project onto the person what we want to see in order to think we are ‘in love’. Sometimes that works out and the two people fall deeply in love, sometimes it doesn’t and we find what we projected onto the person is not true and nor does that person want to pretend it’s true.

‘I used to be a hopeless romantic. Then I became a hopeful romantic. Now, I’m just hopeless.’ (I can’t remember where this quote came from, but I like it.)

Bryar's avatar

“True love” will be forever.
Anything before that is just another step clother to finding “the one.”

OliviaYR's avatar

@Bryar Yea, see, that’s what I thought, too, but…

Berserker's avatar

I don’t see why not. Then again, I prolly never loved anyone before, so I wouldn’t know. Seems kinda cool though. The more love there is and alla dat.

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