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What would be one of the most likely things you would disagree about if the closest person in your life said something you thought was absolutely not true about yourself?

Asked by Mantralantis (1502points) October 26th, 2011

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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Women often have a habit of telling me I am a bad boy. I have absolutely no clue what they mean.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought take it as a compliment. A lot of us like (or at least want to have sex with) that.

I’m not entirely sure that I understand the question, the wording is a little strange. Are you asking what hypothetical trait we feel least describes us, or something that someone has actually called us and we disagree with?


If hypothetical, saying something like I’m vain, when in fact I’m very caring about others and can poke fun of myself.

If in actuality, saying something like I don’t like cats when in fact I love almost all animals, especially dogs and cats.

YARNLADY's avatar

This is in reverse of your question – true story.
My husband always gives me the olives that appear on his plate at restaurants. A relative once offered him some olives and I said “He doesn’t like olives”. He said “Yes, I do.” So I asked him why he always give me his olives and he said “Because you like them more.”

linguaphile's avatar

@YARNLADY Awww!!! That’s so sweet!

@Mantralantis—your question seems to be hypothetical, but this did happen to me. A close friend accused me of being something that I never, ever thought myself to be. Towards the end of our friendship, she said I was “so manipulative that I didn’t know I was being manipulative.” She was extremely angry at me and made me sound so evil. It threw me way off—I’ve always considered myself accommodating, not manipulative. After she said that, it took me about 5 years to stop worrying and being paranoid about being manipulative and gain confidence back that I wasn’t unconsciously evilly messing with people’s minds. :(

talljasperman's avatar

That I should not be reading a textbook beyond my level.

Mantralantis's avatar

The question can be answered however you wish.

Coloma's avatar

I’m open to feedback, and will take something to heart, IF, it’s true.
If it is not, I could care less, and, most importantly, IF someone in my life is overly critical because of their OWN issues, well…most likely I’ll send them packing. I don’t allow anyone to disturb my peace and I don’t “do” difficult people. See ya! lol

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

That if a woman was a 9–10 and 109lb I would break my back to do whatever she asked. The biggest untruth I can think of.

Mantralantis's avatar

@linguaphile – During that “end of our relationship” time with your female friend did you ever consider asking others around you if they may have viewed your behavior as maniputive…or even hers for that matter?

Despite all that, I’m sorry to read that your relationship with this friend of yours ended, linguaphile. It’s always sad to hear of such a thing happening.

linguaphile's avatar

@Mantralantis I asked a lot of other friends who said, “No—you’re not manipulative!” but I was so sensitive and trusting at that time that I still struggled with whether it was true, especially because she said I didn’t know I was doing it. For a long time, I watched myself constantly, just in case she was right. Ugh. That was 10 years ago so it’s water under the bridge :)

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

People have said a lot of things about me that I feel aren’t true, but I guess that’s how life works. I tend to pause, and make sure that I’m not behaving in a way that might cause people to perceive bad things about me, but for the most part I’m learning to brush it off when someone assaults my character for no reason.

Mantralantis's avatar

@linguaphile – Very well. Thanks for letting me know.

Side Note: I suppose the whole “water under the bridge” saying came about when knowing that the water was calm and peaceful at that time for someone, after a dilemma, under a bridge somewhere long ago. I don’t know, but it is one of the best things to say.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

Assuming I have a boyfriend, “She doesn’t care about her boyfriend.”

If I have a boyfriend, I do care about him… or he wouldn’t be my boyfriend.

kitszu's avatar

Truth is a hard pill to swallow however it is prescribed.

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