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Advice on dealing with face always turning bright red?

Asked by bubba3778 (373points) November 18th, 2011

So, I have this insecurity about my face turning tomato red really easily. It’s very annoying and keeps me from being my whole self around my friends. Some examples of places or situations when this happens is when I think about it turning red and then it does! Another is when I feel uncomfortable when a teacher is talking about a touchy topic and then the other students would stare which only makes it worse. I’ve tried convincing myself that I shouldn’t be insecure about it and that no one really cares that it turns red, but it hasn’t worked too well so far..maybe I just need one of those slap-in-the-face statements that just make you realize and actually believe it.

So, does this happen to anyone else? How do you deal with it?

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gailcalled's avatar

Are you talking about blushing or flushing rather than a rare medical condition? If yes, it’s common and I can’t think of a way to control it other than serious hypnotism.

Are you aware when your friends blush or flush? They are probably just as self-conscious and uncomfortable about that as you are when it happens to you.

Not much help, I know. Another five or six years and it may be just an adolescent memory. I still shudder when I remember how I felt as a high-schooler.

Earthgirl's avatar

I knew a girl in high school with the same problem that you have. My stupid English teacher used to delight in making her blush beet red! How immature of him!! A lot of it is self consciousness. Like Gailcalled said, it will pass. But I think the video below might be helpful in the meantime.

This is just the nicest video with what seems to be good, practical advice!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUjBr20kl20

Stinley's avatar

I had same problem, so feel for you. I still blush easily but not as much as I did as a teenager. Make up helps me now as I wear foundation all the time. Could you try it?

bubba3778's avatar

@gailcalled It’s just blushing/flushing nothing too serious, but it’s really embarrassing and my friends don’t have this problem so I don’t have anyone close to that can relate to me.

@Earthgirl That’s a weird coincidence because my blushing happens most in my English class too! Except my teacher doesn’t purposely do anything to make me blush, I think she sees it and cracks the window a bit which is nice of her. I think it’s more of the awkwardness and people I don’t know that cause it to happen there. Also, the video was nice, I’ll probably be trying a few of those things out at some point.

@Stinley I probably could wear a foundation..if I had some, but the only thing is that I’ll either forget to put it on or not want to put it on, I’m not big on makeup at this point, but it seems like an easy fix.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

While certain cosmetics might mask this, I believe that extreme self-consciousness or social anxiety may be a problem for which a person might seek and benefit from cognitive behaviour therapy. If this concern makes you tense and uncomfortable in social situations or if you avoid situations because of fear of embarrassment, then it may be undermining your quality of life and limiting your options for a better life.

Stinley's avatar

For me the make up helps when I do blush as the blush can’t be seen, so therefore I don’t blush about blushing, if you see what I mean

gailcalled's avatar

I still occasionally blush and concomitantly sweat. So my face gets both red and damp. This is due to chemo about 15 years ago, I think. Now I simply laugh, fan myself and wipe my face with a hankie. It helps to get old. I know that no one, including me, no longer cares.

I think that make-up would not really cover up the body’s natural flush. And if you did sweat a little, you’d have a puddly mess to worry about as well, as @Stinley points out. Similar to crying while wearing mascara.

As an adolescent, I would have loved to have had some therapy, for a dozen different issues, anxiety being only one of them. As adults, my first husband got stomach aches and the runs, my second experienced migraines, and I suffered from a bad back.

JessicaRabbit's avatar

Awe I think its cute when people blush :)

noodle_poodle's avatar

I used to have this problem too the only thing i can suggest is just to accept it. Just think to yourself well I get embarrassed so what? shit happens. The more you try to cut it out the more it will become an issue. It sounds ludicrous i know but just accepting myself was the way it mostly disappeared.

prioritymail's avatar

This totally happens to me, but usually when I have to give a speech. And it is really weird because it never happened before. I have no idea why the change, but would love to get to the bottom of it!

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