Do you hide it if you hate a member in here?

Another jelly and I went round and round. We would tell people we were friends, and the bickering was friendly, but the mods knew, and cautioned us a few times.
He is gone from Fluther now, and the world is a better place.

@Tbag There are some members of the site I’d like to see try climbing Everest and leaving their stinking corpse near the summit. Does that count?

I don’t hate anyone, but I did come close to this troll once. I became very passive aggressive so it was obvious.

@Adirondackwannabe Does that mean you just announced you hate me?

I don’t know anyone here well enough to hate.

But the real issue for me: you all are printed names on a web screen. You are not the real world. You are a bunch of cyphers on a page. I don’t know your real names, your likes, your dislikes, your personality, your sense of humor, your looks, your foibles – anything.

So why would I care enough about what you said to “hate” you? You’re all ephmeral scrawls on a page.

Now, there are some folks that I disagree with, but that happens in real life as well. That’s part of the ebb and flow of life.

Repeat after me: FLUTHER is NOT real life…..

@Tbag I don’t hate anyone. That requires me to put time and effort into my feelings towards someone I dislike. Why bother? You’re cool.

@Adirondackwannabe You just gave me a heart-attack! Oh dear lord, I don’t want to hate anyone and even if I do, I wouldn’t say that I do, but that’s just me.

@elbanditoroso I scrawl, therefore I am?

@Blackberry – we all reach self-actualization in our own ways….

There are a few users who cause my eyes to roll so rapidly that I risk having them spin out of my skull, and there is an even more select few who have earned my derision, but I will still award them lurve if I feel as though they gave a good answer.

I think that in the end, we all need to remember that this is just the internet, and it’s silly to get overly butthurt about the things and people that use it, in the long run.

I don’t hate anyone here. There are one or two people that I really dislike, and I tend to butt heads with… so I just avoid them. It has never gotten to the point where I feel I need to say something, though, I’m sure it is obvious when I dislike someone. I get snippy.

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the guy someone hates. If so, my bad. Lol

@Tbag My apologies. I play a little rough at times. I don’t think I have a seriously mean bone in my body, so I’m sorry about that.

There are definitely a couple I avoid, which does tend to mean I don’t give them much lurve, because I don’t read their answers.

It seems to me there is an old theory that “hate” is the closest emotion to “love” – and that my hating someone you are (in a twisted way) actually showing your love for them.

Does that play into the equation?

@Blackberry Don’t worry brether! When I first came here and did read some of your answers, I was like ’ this blackberry dude is funny and cool.
@Adirondackwannabe Ah, don’t be. To anyone who may dislike me, I am sorry and I give you a only one time high five.

@Blackberry, you’re one of my favorites.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard @Tbag The feeling is mutual :)

:-D

@elbanditoroso Not with me, at least. My like and dislike are separate when it comes to people, usually. I don’t know if that’s good or bad.

There are a few users that I don’t care for. I try to avoid them. I usually dislike them because of the body of their answers or the way that they answer questions.

I did have a tangle with one in PMs a few weeks ago.

There are quite a few idiots – everywhere, always. I try to help them when I can, and avoid them when I can’t help them. I try to avoid making the pronouncements in text. At least not in so many words. In any case, not directly in the thread any more. Once in a while the idiocy starts to go viral, and I join those discussions against my better judgment. I usually regret it.

When I find myself feeling “hate” or even very strong antipathy, then it’s time for inward reflection, contemplation, and planning of new methods of torture, ruination and utter destruction of that individual. I should do that more often, now that I reflect on that a bit.

If you stay Fluthering long enough, chances are you will get one or two responses that SEEM to be belittling your question and it could possibly come from the way you asked the question. Naturally, it annoys you and you are tempted to snap back.

Try this, read the response twice imagining those words being spoken calmly and not in a snippy way. Sometimes you’ll see it wasn’t meant to be hurtful.

A handful of members greatly annoy me, but I don’t hate anyone here. It’s easy enough to skip over someone’s posts once you realize you consistently dislike what they say.

I have noticed that the people I dislike are ones that seem to relish being unpleasant to those in need of sympathy.

I hate some people’s viewpoints on some subjects but I don’t hate any people. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with debating a viewpoint you strongly disagree with. But generally I try to be nice. Sometimes I fail.

Don’t hate, appreciate!

Hate the spinner, love the spin.

Or do I have that backwards?

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard pretty much summed up my feelings on this situation. It is not worth my time to actively hate anyone, especially online. There are some folks whose questions I don’t bother to look at because in my experience they are not my cup of tea. If someone I typically disagree with asks a lurve worthy question or makes a lurve worthy quip, I do not let a grudge keep me from giving it.

I don’t hate any jellies. There are a few that annoy me, and I have voiced my frustration during an argument on a Q when I just felt like it was getting ridiculous. I think it has happened maybe twice in the long time I have been here.

There was one jelly who did not annoy me, but it seems I annoyed her. I wish she would have said something to me weeks or months before she did so I would not have aggravated her so much. I can’t read anyone’s mind.

Yep. But my answers always get removed.

I usually hold out hope that people will change, or I consider that they may have something rotten going on in their own life.

If someone is annoying me I simply take a break from reading their questions and answers. But I often go back just to see if they’ve changed.

It would be a terrible waste of my energy to hate anyone on Fluther especially since I don’t know them personnally. When I find myself frowning at certain Jelly’s viewpoints I just ignore.
And what @elbanditoroso said. GA!

Seems like most people find “hate” to be too harsh a word. I’m in that group, too. There are people who I butt heads with on a few issues, and whenever I see a certain question, I know we might tangle again. I think we mostly are learning how to tangle without being offensive to each other. I think we are learning to try to understand where the other person’s view is coming from, even if we can’t stand the opinion.

On the other hand, there are certain things that people will do that will always make me “fight” back. I hate it when someone denigrates a question of mine. I take that personally. My attitude is that there is no bad question. But there are insulting answers, and one insulting answer is telling someone they asked a stupid question that everyone knows the answer to. Not helpful, in my opinion. Not the fluther way.

But that happens very, very rarely, and it really makes me wonder what is going on that someone should respond that way. Still, I feel like I need to respond in public, not via pm. I believe that people should experience the consequences of their behavior, and if people think I’m wrong, I want to know that, too. I won’t like it, but I’ll survive. I might apologize, if necessary. I’ve done it before. More often than I like to admit.

So I’m not going to hide it if I think someone is wrong or has behaved badly. If I don’t like someone… well, I don’t find it necessary to say that. I think it is important to discuss the opinion, the evidence, or the behavior, but not to throw negative feelings in someone else’s face purely for the purposes of hurting them. There have been times when I wanted to hurt people (when they hurt me), but I try to resist that urge. I don’t like being moderated. And I know that by attacking someone in that way, I will only be escalating the conflict and making it less likely that any conflict will be resolved.

In the end, I want to like everyone. Now, if they would only agree with me (after a reasoned debate), I’d just love everyone! Including @johnpowell! (Even if I envy his mad tech skills).

There is still only one jelly I can’t stand, but that is because they are a non-reformable quim-face poopy-head. Disagree without being disagreeable, and if you are disagreeable at least work things through in a few PM’s a become friends/friendly. This is the internet!
I don’t hide it at all, Auggie had to PM me a couple of times with her [Mod] hat on, whoops. Sticks and stones luvs, we’re all adults… well, most of us anyways.

Like many others here, I find “hate” to be too strong. There are some I find outstandingly annoying, some I have to tie my hands behind my back not to slap with derisive remarks, and some I just ignore, but Hate? Nope. As far as saying anything, what would be the point? Avoiding is the best way to deal, or try to have fewer go-rounds with.

@wundayatta You must be the Einstein of fluther.

Yes, I too find “hate” to be a word that affords far more power to the very, very, few around these here parts that have shown me they are really dysfunctional peeps.

I employ a zero tolerance for abusive, assumptive, mentally and emotionally unstable behaviors.

On rare occasion I have been known to take the bait, momentarily, but, I come to my senses pretty quickly.

You can’t confront or reason with emotionally disturbed people, it’s an exercise in futility.

@Coloma Hawkeye Pierce said it best: My mother told me never argue with a crazy person. And always wear clean underwear in case you get hit by a tank.

@CWOTUS Haha…....Tonight…...We dine in hell…...

What fresh new hell is this? Dorothy Parker

Hell hath no fury like a jelly scorned. : )

I don’t hate anyone on Fluther. I dislike some on Fluther. They know.

I don’t hate anyone but if I did, I would hide it and just ignore them.

I don’t hide it, but I don’t broadcast it either. There’s only a few I could genuinely hate.

I fuckin hate you all.

:D

I’m with the I don’t hate anyone group. I never felt that towards anyone on here, or anywhere on the Internet. Some people bug me, some I never seem to agree with, but none of this is enough to hate someone. Some few people I’d just rather not talk with at all, and I don’t, but not because I hate them. If I did hate someone, I don’t think I’d openly say it. What would be the point, anyway? Unless there was a perfectly good reason to, which I can’t think of.

What @elbanditoroso said. I can’t imagine hating anyone on an internet forum.

@Blackberry

This… is… FLUTHER!

To be honest, I wish I knew 98% of them out there in real life, as for the ones who bug some of us a bit more than others, each to his own, let them be, ignore them, take them with a pinch of salt!

No, I don’t believe in hating anyone. There was one user that was finally asked to leave the site that caused me a great deal of unease. There are current users that I try to avoid.

There is one user that I used to always avoid, but now the comments by the person using that screen name seem to be from a different person.

No. I do not hate anyone, not in real life or here.
There are times that I do strongly dislike the actions of others, and occaisionally strongly dislike questions. Especially questions that hold no other value except to spawn negativity and create ill-feelings.
This question might be a good exaple of a question that I dislike. However, I do still like the asking party.

No offense but no one here is worth getting riled up over to the extent of hate. I only hate real people. Not this collection of god knows who and people masking themselves as something they aren’t.

^ I hate him because he threatened to glue me down on my seat.
Joke.
I sincerely hope no one hate me here on Fluther, I’d feel wretched :-/

@MilkyWay that threat is still in effect… :P

I feel that I’ve had personality clashes with a few people on here. I don’t appreciate it when people are rude to me for seemingly no reason. I might be more receptive to them if they start treating me more respectfully instead of like a stupid child. I am pretty open about my feelings on here, so I am okay with making it obvious I do not like their behaviour. Oddly enough, because I do this, I have received PMs from people who tell me the very same person I called out treated them the exact same way in the past over something else entirely and encourage me not to take that person seriously. That helps me know it is not my problem.

As for “Great Questions” and “Great Answers”, great contributions are “great”, regardless of who is behind them.

I don’t hate anyone here but for the one I definitely dislike 99% of the time, I don’t bother with it because the way they are to me is how they are to most everyone else here. It’s a MEH kind of situation.

@AnonymousGirl Ah, lol, it was me, wasn’t it? Come ooooon, tell me it was me.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Haha. You’d like that, wouldn’t you? You don’t bother me that much. You will have to try harder if you want to. :)

@AnonymousGirl Fine. shuffles away

@King_Pariah Catch me if ya can :P
(Pulls face and runs away)

The big of us, the small of us, the short of us, the tall of us…...we are all just like Barbra belts out “people who need people.” So….just like in the world of romance, there is somebody for everybody….just be pleased about the good comradie and few true friends you make here. And actually it is the people to whom one least takes a shine who have the most to teach. Why? They force you to freshly evaluate how you see your world, its issues and more often than we admit, the other helps us grow or at least carve initials in our mind’s cement if it isn’t so hardened already that is cracking.

I honestly can’t think of anyone I don’t like.
I have my list of favorites. I play favorites. I’ll admit it.
Then there’s everyone else. I don’t dislike them at all. I just don’t have an opinion about them.

I don’t hate anybody but if a user has a problem with me I will not hesitate to confront them about it. I don’t respond to every little thing thrown at me but there are times when you have to stand up to certain people when they don’t back off.

Correction: There is someone here I have the potential to hate tremendously for a bit, but that is because I actually know the person.

I hate the way lamb smells when it’s cooking. Are there any rare lamb chops in here, if so I might hate you!

@rooeytoo I’m a rare lamb chop.

Kidding. :)

Too lazy to hate anyone. I don’t think I hate anyone in real life! Some people give me the irrits. I would not let it be known in public (apart from some very close friends). That isn’t the way I work. It also gives the power to the person you don’t like. I will give GAs if they present a good response. Life is too short to let silly people really get your back up for too long. Vent with a a few bad words about them and move on.