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If one of your parents was cheating...

Asked by Charles (4815points) January 12th, 2012

…would you inform the other parent (assuming they were still married)?

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OpryLeigh's avatar

I found out my mum was cheating on my dad when I was about 11 years old. I didn’t tell him but I did confront her and she ended up telling him herself. They are divorced now.

marinelife's avatar

I don’t know. I am not sure I would want to be the bearer of that message. I know that I would confront the cheating parent.

gearedtolaugh's avatar

My dad cheated on my mom several times. After I confronted him about it, and he denied it, I told my mom. My mom and I got proof that he was, and they ended up getting a divorice. It was better for both of them because he didn’t have to lie to her anymore and she didn’t have to deal with it, although I did feel a bit too involved.

john65pennington's avatar

No child should ever have to hold this secret inside themselves.

Right is right and wrong is wrong.

Children, no matter what their age, should tell it like it is.

gearedtolaugh's avatar

@john65pennington That’s what I thought. The little bit of guilt that I did have was thrown away by the terrible deeds that my dad did.

Bart19's avatar

I saw my mother flirting with other men on numerous occasions since I was sixteen but have never mentioned this to my father.

It’s pretty harmless and its not like she ends up going home with random strangers. Yet again there a lot of sexual tinged conversations and tons of indecent proposals and suggestions. If my wife would go the pub, get as drunk as her and do the things my mother does with these men I would probably accuse her of cheating or of not caring about me nor her family.

The reason I never told my father is that he won’t believe me anyway or even worse, not care. When it comes to subtle flirting, it’s very hard to get proof. Besides he is head over heels with my mother and thinks she is the greatest person ever. Me marring that idealized image will unleash so much anger directed to me, that I don’t think it’s worth to take the risk.

Coloma's avatar

I’d most likely tell, but, I have zero tolerance for keeping life altering secrets that effect innocent people.
How can a child be blamed for carrying that kind of burden?
I say the cheating parent deserves to be exposed and the mere fact that they involved their child by default is despicable all by itself.
If that parent dares to even question or feel angered their child spilled the beans, well…that’s even bigger testimony to their extreme f—ked upness.

mazingerz88's avatar

I’ll blackmail them into buying me a new car. Heh heh.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Yes, I would find a discreet and diplomatic way to do so!

john65pennington's avatar

Gearedtolaugh, you difenetly did the correct thing by telling.

smilingheart1's avatar

I am surprised to see that I am the only one who would not tell. I believe there is a time and a season for things to get recognized as they surely eventually come to the light and I don’t feel it is the child’s place to force the timing or the assume that heavy responsibility that will always weigh on them. When I was a young adult after my parents had already separated I did confront my mother’s sister who seemed to be keeping company with my dad. I found that disrespectful.

MilkyWay's avatar

@mazingerz88 lol!
If I found out, than yes, I would tell.

Ayesha's avatar

I’ll blackmail them into making @mazingerz88 give his new car to me.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I’d tell the cheating parent I knew and for them to make good and tell themselves or I would. What’s sad is so many times the parents know what’s going on but think the kids don’t know and don’t want to face their kids.

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