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Today, is it proper for a female to send flowers to a male?

Asked by john65pennington (29220points) January 30th, 2012

I have sent flowers to many women in my 68 years of life. This was mainly the time, before I was married and never after, except to my wife or mother. Question: so today, is it proper etiquette for a woman to send flowers to a man? If so, what would be some of the occasions for sending the flowers?

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6rant6's avatar

Anytime the credit card isn’t overdrawn.

Blackberry's avatar

Why would it not be proper? It has only been seen as improper because of gender stereotypes, the same reason why a woman couldn’t propose to a man.

It was never improper in the first place, the only thing that matters is that the two people are accepting of seeing past the stereotypes.

marinelife's avatar

Why not?

I have sent flowers to my spouse. It was congratulations for something (memory fails as to what).

9memory fails as to what


Keep_on_running's avatar

Hell yeah. I’d do it. If the guy is going through the loss of a loved one, or is feeling depressed, letting them know you care about them. That is if the man likes flowers, if not, I’d send something else.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I think it’s fine and any occasion can be a special enough occasion to do so. I think it’s okay to send things other than flowers as well in leiu of flowers if you are sending them to someone that doesn’t really like flowers.

Ayesha's avatar

Why not! :) Could be any occasion, from a birthday to a promotion.

john65pennington's avatar

Ayesha, what about the homecoming of a new puppy? And, you know what I mean.

zenvelo's avatar

Yes, it’s okay. I have received flowers from women a couple times,it was very much appreciated.

JilltheTooth's avatar

Why on earth not???

cazzie's avatar

I don’t think I have sent flowers in a romantic way to a guy. I have had plants and flowers sent to father-in-law for birthday, gotten small arrangement for male work colleagues when they were leaving our employ. Thinking back, I think there would have been times I could have. Being taken away for a great weekend, he would get flowers for that and a thank you card. (ah… but then he wife would see… and that would be bad…..) lol jk.

I have sent flowers BACK to guys to let them know, ‘what the hell were you thinking? I am sooo not into you!’ (no note saying that explicitly, but they got the message.)

OpryLeigh's avatar

Whilst I don’t see any problem with a female sending flowers to a male, in all honesty, I don’t know a single male who would appreciate flowers, so for that reason I wouldn’t do it. I think proper etiquette would be to get the person something they would genuinely like regardless of whether they are male or female.

WestRiverrat's avatar

I love getting flowers. There is never a reason not to get flowers for anyone, unless they have told you no flowers. Nothing makes the gals in the office more envious than a guy getting flowers.

Sunny2's avatar

I have a friend who was annoyed that her boyfriend hadn’t proposed. She sent him a funeral wreath! They’ve now been married at least 20 years.

wundayatta's avatar

Never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never…

oh all right. But only on the third Tuesday of months ending in “r.”

serenade's avatar

Pearls before swine, IMHO. Not always. It’s not improper by any means, but it’s got to be an appreciative guy. Lots of times girls send flowers, because that’s what they’d want and imagine everyone else must want, too.

Green plants or gift baskets are a better bet.

6rant6's avatar

Hey, I have to say, getting flowers the day after the night before makes a guy feel pretty special, and the guys in the other offices jealous as hell.

rooeytoo's avatar

Hey John are we to read between the lines here and surmise that a female other than your wife sent you flowers and you want to know if it means she has the hots for you??? :-)

Male's avatar

Hell yes, I’d love a bouquet of flowers.

Tropical_Willie's avatar

Any REASON at all. My wife left a bouquet of Roses and Carnations when she left for a road trip today.

digitalimpression's avatar

I don’t know what the etiquette is.. but as a man.. I know I don’t want any damn flowers.

AshLeigh's avatar

I don’t think most men want flowers. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, other then that.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I’d send them to my husband but I wouldn’t have sent them when he was my bf. I’ve seen men receive flowers and most of the time they are teased by co workers about the woman being some kind of desperate stalker or trying too hard. I thought it was cruel to watch, so completely different than when I’ve watched women get flowers.

creative1's avatar

I’ve giving roses to someone I was dating before for valentines day‚Ķ. I just delivered them to him at work and he loved them.

woodcutter's avatar

It should be mandatory,but that’s just me.

Berserker's avatar

It’s a token of love and appreciation, like so many other forms thereof. If etiquette has a problem with that, it can eat shit and die.

digitalimpression's avatar

What sort of man enjoyed receiving roses at work? Where am I? Is this “earth”?

creative1's avatar

@digitalimpression a man who is secure with his masculinity

wundayatta's avatar

@digitalimpression Hey dude! You’re not going to stand for that, are you? I mean, from a woman??????

Better watch out. One more strike and you’re losing your man card.

OpryLeigh's avatar

@creative1 I really don’t think men being comfortable with their “masculinity” has anything to do with whether they would appreciate flowers as a gift (sent to work or otherwise) or not. I know my man is very comfortable in his masculinity but if I bought him flowers he’d look at me as if to say “what the fuck am I meant to do with them”. He’s the type of male stereotype that would much rather a set of screwdrivers that are actually useful rather than a bunch of flowers which are pretty and smell good but that’s really all.

woodcutter's avatar

And screw drivers can be a lot cheaper too and they don’t die, at least not without a fight.

creative1's avatar

@Leanne1986 to each there own but I don’t think a dozen screw drivers sounds very romantic.

I did send my step-father cookie bouquet for his birthday, they are 1 dozen long stemmed cookies which was sent to him in a flower box and he absolutely loved them and thought they were yummy.

OpryLeigh's avatar

@creative1 Whether it is “romantic” or not, I would rather buy the man I love a gift I know he will appreciate rather than one that just appears romantic. Like I said, it’s fine if you know the person you are seeing (whether male or female) would like flowers but if you’re just doing it because it seems “romantic” then that’s probably for the wrong reasons.

I must say, I love the idea of a cookie bouquet. Both my man and I would appreciate that!!

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