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How do I tell if he likes me?

Asked by sadconfusion (190points) February 18th, 2012

Your comments would be greatly appreciated.

Just some extra info:
He started talking to me.
We talk every day.
Seem to have become good friends, and I don’t want to mess that up by telling him how I feel.
When he sits next to me, he pokes and elbows me, messes up my hair etc.

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sadconfusion's avatar

Sorry if it’s a stupid question but he’s a good friend and I love talking to him. I’d hate to lose that. :(

partyrock's avatar

@sadconfusion – It’s not a stupid question at all, mostly everyone on the entire planet is going to wonder if the person they like likes them back too. It’s a natural human emotion.

From the little things you’ve mentioned then it does sound he likes you.

Actions not words is what is key. It’s easy for people to say “I love you”, “Hey babe”, and it’s always easy for a guy to always text you—but action is what counts.

So if he is making an effort to spend time with you, get to know you, respects you, then I would say he does :) :)

sadconfusion's avatar

Thanks for the reply. :)
I guess I’m just really afraid of the rejection and things being weird between us, to I wanna make extra sure.

AshLeigh's avatar

From my (wildly untamed) experience, a guy won’t talk to you every day, or make so much effort to spend time with you if he’s not interested.
It sounds like he does like you.
The only way to find out is to ask him. :)

sadconfusion's avatar

So you think I should tell him then? o.o God help me. lol

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AshLeigh's avatar

How old are you?
Boys are shy, sometimes, especially at a young age, and he might be afraid to tell you.

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augustlan's avatar

Ask him. That’s really the only way to know for sure, and it really is better to know. That way you won’t torture yourself wondering, and you won’t have anything to regret in the future.

sadconfusion's avatar

@ucme LOL! Now that, I’m not sure of.

sadconfusion's avatar

I’m 17 he’s almost 18. His friend says that he’s bad at talking to girls but he’s had like 3 girlfriends. lol

KateTheGreat's avatar

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sadconfusion's avatar

@augustlan Thank you. :) I’m really considering it now.

ucme's avatar

@sadconfusion Bless ya for feeling the humour, but it was deservedly pulled.
When will I ever learn? ;¬}

AshLeigh's avatar

@sadconfusion, in that case you should tell him. What’s the worst that could happen?
He should be mature enough to handle it. If he doesn’t like you (which I think he does) then it shouldn’t be awkward for too long, and you’ll be able to remain being friends.

sadconfusion's avatar

@KateTheGreat will do! thanks.

@ucme Humour is always welcome. lol

@KateTheGreat Thanks for all the help. :) I’ll chat him, later on. :P It might be awkward but I’m sure I’ll get over it.

augustlan's avatar

@sadconfusion Please keep us posted. Oh, and welcome to Fluther!

sadconfusion's avatar

Before I do it. Any ideas on how to bring it up? And no that wasn’t a euphemism lol @ucme

ucme's avatar

Oh you can definitely stay, I like you already :¬)

jca's avatar

Does he call you? Make sure it’s not one sided.

sadconfusion's avatar

Nah, just chat. But he always starts it. :P
I’m tryin to make sure. lol Hence the question.

sadconfusion's avatar


ucme's avatar

Erm…....& on that bombshell!

sadconfusion's avatar

I said something related to the subject that he denied. don’t know if I just got my answer!

likipie's avatar

The only way to know for sure is to ask him. Any other way, there’s still a slight chance you’re wrong. So if you really want to know the absolute truth you’re just gonna have to ask him. Make sure he knows you’re completely serious and that you don’t care if he does or if he doesn’t. He may say no just because he’s embarrassed but hopefully he will be truthful. If he really likes you a lot he shouldn’t be embarrassed to say something when you ask him. Good luck!

sadconfusion's avatar

That’s true. :/

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