Should I be concerned if the thank you note for the birthday presents only mentioned one of the two presents we gave to the child?
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February 21st, 2012
Recently my daughter attended a birthday party for a child who used to be in her school. I gave two dinosaur cartoon DVD’s and dinosaur pajamas. We just got a thank you note from the parents, and the note mentioned the DVD’s and not the pajamas.
Should I contact them and mention the pajamas? The way I was thinking I could do it is to contact them and let them know the PJ’s came from Costco,and I wanted to mention that if they don’t fit you can return them without a receipt. I am not sure if it would sound weird to do that, but I am kind of concerned that they don’t seem to realize that we gave them the pajamas, too.
I know when you have a party, it’s very easy to mix up who gave you what gift(s).
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No don’t mention that they forgot to mention the PJs. If you see them again ask if the PJs fitted. I wouldn’t stress this unless you are trying to go over and beyond to get their validation.
I would, politely, simply ask. It is a reasonable question and has nothing to do with validation.
The last time I thought I had sent a wedding present, I waited for almost six months to check with the bride and groom. At their end, they were scratching their heads because the gift arrived without a card.
Why did the parents write a thank you note instead of the child? Seems to me the child should be writing thank you notes.
I would not think about the PJ thing for another moment. I would not mention it in any way.
@MollyMcGuire: The child just turned 5. The parents wrote the note, the child wrote his name. A 5 year old who’s not yet in kindergarten could barely write.
@jca @Bellatrix From the OP: “a child who used to be in her school.” School aged children can generally write.
What? You got a thank you note?
I wouldn’t mention it. It sounds like to me that it was simply human error (kids get a lot of presents and if a parent doesn’t always remember who gave what I don’t think it should be held against them) on the letter writers part and not worth worrying about. You got a thank you note and I think that is the most important thing. Making them realise that you gave two presents and not just the one you mentioned seems arrogant regardless of how you approach it.
@MollyMcGuire: Sorry for the misunderstanding. They’re at an age where they can barely write their names!
Given the nature of the presents @MollyMcGuire, it was fairly obvious these were young children. Children here can start school at four (as long as they turn five by June 30). Younger if you include pre-school.
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