In your house, would it be ok for your teenage son or daughter to have their boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over, and if so, what rules (if any) would there be, and what is the youngest age you would allow this?

A friend of mine has a 16 year old son who visits his girlfriend (a few hours away by train) and the girlfriend’s mother lets him sleep over in the same bed. We were discussing it (my friend and I) and we were saying we’re surprised the mom is so accepting of having the son sleep in the same bed as her 16 year old daughter.

I have heard parents say that kids are going to “do it” anyway, so they may as well be at home where it’s safe and secure. Thinking about this got me thinking. I have a daughter who is about 12 years away from this issue, but it made me curious about other Flutherites’ opinions on this topic.

Would you let your teenage son or daughter have their boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over at your house? If you did allow this, would you have any rules about it (ok to sleep in same bed, or woulds it have to be a different bed, or on a different floor?)? If you did allow this or found this acceptable, what is the youngest age you would allow this? 13? 14? 16? 18? 20? Some other age? or would you never allow this to occur under your roof?