Did you ever have to deal with you or your child being the bully?

We see plenty of questions on fluther about dealing with bullies and jellies who were bullied, but what about those of you who did the bullying, or had children who were the bullies?

Tell us briefly about the situation, and most of all if you have an idea where the behavior came from. Can you see how the child was mimicking behaviors they observed or endured at home? Do you blame the child’s other parent? Yourself? Did friends instigate the behavior? In retrospect what do you think happened?

Please no judgements made about anybody. This is purely out of interest, and the goal is to learn, not berate anyone.