NSFW What is the difference between making love and..... ?

What is the difference between making love with someone, or just fucking, or having sex ?

Is just having sex, all lust?

Does making love mean having feelings for the person? What is the difference?

Can you make love with someone but not be IN love with them… ?

Does making love mean more kissing, hugging, cuddling, and being close together?

Not to be totally blunt but I feel Fluther is a place I can freely ask questions and be open without being judged. I was with a guy and we did the….deed… and It felt like we were making love…. It was really intense, passionate, slow, and had emotion and depth. We kissed a lot, and did a lot of holding the kiss and pausing, and being really close together. Cuddling, hugging, and he kissed me on my forehead, and my shoulder, stuff like that. Even afterwards we laid in bed together, naked and talked for a bit. And on the way home we were holding hands in the car.

So how do we know the difference?

Because I know you can have sex with someone you are in love with, but not really “make love”, and you can make love with someone you don’t like (but just have it as a really passionate moment). I think we made love, I’m pretty sure we didn’t just fuck.

So is there a difference you see? Is this different for all people?

What do you consider to be making love?