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How do you handle a life change, such as in a career?

Asked by AuroraSolei (222points) April 1st, 2012

I have worked from the age of 18 to 24 as a PCA, Program Assistant, Health Coordinator, Medical Coding Analyst and ultimately began a career as a teacher at an adult day program for people with disabilites. During the last month I have lost my job, gone through personal changes in relationship status and friendships and an incident with a client resulting in my two front teeth needing to be removed and replaced with permanent ones. All of these things pushed me into finding a new job out of NEED not WANT. I needed a job-I was given one, but it’s in a field I have no clue about, but possesses great opportunity and growth in a single company which will lead to Management status’, relatively substantial income. But I have to persuade people an item is worth it-market it’s value-knowing what’s it’s truly worth and basically over exaggerate the epic-ness of a products true worth. Instead of nuturing those who need compassion, a leader, a stable confident and a caregiver who puts their rights and wants first… How do you change gears quickly without consequence—without losing your compassion, even though you know it will further the career you have the most passion for?

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blueiiznh's avatar

You have to quickly and swiftly accept and embrace it. Find a way to become as passionate as possible and look to find how to differentiate the product from the rest. This is a skill that is not for the faint of heart. Once you find your way through the maze, you will be able to take on that challenge and keep your compassion no matter what.

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creative1's avatar

You need to keep looking for a career that will satisfy and you will be happy doing. I was so happy where I worked and was with the same company for just under 10yrs when my daughter became ill. I have been trying to find something that will accomidate her needs for flexibility in schedule and my satisfaction on what I am doing, which meant trying different jobs out to figure things out. I am now taking classes to reinvent myself at 43 but at least I am happy with my new career choice. I would start by figuring out what you want to do, it may mean staying in this position while you go to school to learn your new career however it it well worth it when you are happy in going to work everyday.

AuroraSolei's avatar

@blueiiznh Accepting the new role is easy-but embracing it is another challenge. As a teen I worked in sales and I have the ability to talk my way to the finalized sale, but it feels like deciet as I grow older/wiser and more aware of the way the world is guilted and tricked into purchasing items they don’t need.
@creative1 I ultimately know after the training period, I will be certified as a manager and be able to make more money and once I have atleast a year of Managing events on my own I will be able to apply it to my passion.

blueiiznh's avatar

@AuroraSolei Then it sounds lke this will be short lived while you search for another place of employment.

chyna's avatar

At your age, you need to try to look at the long range picture. If this will eventually lead to your life long passion within a year, you need to keep in mind that we all have to do things we don’t like to get to where we want to be. If, within a year, it isn’t leading to where you want to be, you can look for another job with the year of manager under your belt.

wundayatta's avatar

There’s a lot I could say, but I hesitate, because I really don’t know you. However, I see a lot of warning signs that make me worry. Again, I don’t think I can tell you what they are because you are in a frame of mind where I don’t believe you can let yourself hear what I have to say.

I have found that no matter what I tried to be—I couldn’t be someone other than who I was. I tried to work for a large corporation, and none of them would hire me. I believe they could see right through into my true nature—which is that I don’t fit in large organizations. I can’t make myself conform. I always want to change things. Doing things slowly and unintelligently makes me crazy.

You are who you are. If you try to make yourself into something else, I suspect you will be unhappy. You have taken on a job out of need. If you don’t love this work, it will make you crazy and unhappy. Of course, not having food also makes you unhappy, and in a worse way.

If you want to be successful at sales, you need to believe in your product. You need to find things about your product, and those are the ones you talk about. But even more than your product, you are selling yourself. Your personality. Your credibility. Your first concern is your customer. You need to make your own assessment of whether your product is right for your customer. That means you need to get to know them and their needs, and if you think there is a fit, then you can sell the hell out of the product, because you truly believe it will help the customer.

So always get to know your customer first. What are they looking for? What needs do they have? Get details. Then know your own product. If there is a fit, you sell. If not, then you advise them not to buy. Tell them there is something better, elsewhere. This is how you build a reputation for honesty and your clients will refer people based on how well they feel they have been treated.

If you do this, you can probably feel good about yourself. Don’t pressure yourself to sell. Let yourself be honest and enthusiastic only where warranted. Never sell. Educate. Be a consultant. Your job is to help your clients, as it always has been. Selling is secondary. If you are a good and ethical client, the selling will take care of itself.

AuroraSolei's avatar

@wundayatta I am not exactly sure what ‘warning signs’ are making you worry. My ethics for my clients-wether sales or my clients with disabilities are beyond expectations. I have been raised to always do the right thing and intend on keeping it that way. I won’t ‘conform’ either to a robotic state-such as I have seen my newer co-workers do with their sales pitch to passerbys, but I however will do it in my own friendly inviting way and make the most of it. All in all, it will be an easier way to climb the later in the career that I wish to be in versus marketing. For, unless you have a BA in Social Work, Medical or Psycology, there is no growth in patient caring and programing for people with mental and physical disabilities. I simple am asking on how ‘you’ yourself would handle the change in environment, so you don’t get overworked, overwhelmed and possibly fall flat on your face in an epic failure to something that will be a great key ingredient to getting hired in a higher position to help those who need your guidance and help. Especially when you don’t have the funding or abilities to get the funding to remain in schooling to futher your career.

Failure may be a fear-but it’s a possiblity I am mentally prepared with, I am just hoping that I don’t lose sight of the true goals I have in life-just because this one may give me the fincial stability I was lacking in my other career and the safety hazards of behaviors are less due to obvious reasons.

AuroraSolei's avatar

@chyna Thank you-that is the goal I see at the end of the tunnel and I hope it’s as quickly obtainable as they say it is in this company.

Cruiser's avatar

Take the job if you really really need it, but doing a hard sell on a product you appear to not be totally on board selling will leave you uncommitted and uncertain and IMO that is not worth having. The potential for a great opportunity and income may be overshadowing the net effect selling something your heart may not be in. Life is too short to not feel good and proud of what you do for a living.

AuroraSolei's avatar

:) smiling sheepishly-I am a woman and as a woman I have been taught to grin and bear it and smile even if you hate it. Fake it til you make it: is what my grandmother always taught me. Yes indeed @Cruiser life is short, but living it in poverty and in fear of failing and not meeting my goals, is a bigger risk than being unhappy for some time. I am just terrified of all of the extreme changes in my life over the past 4 years and the tolls of even greater change in the coming months. I just hope it doesn’t change me from what my passions are at this moment.

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