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How does your knowledge of your fertility affect your libido?

Asked by wundayatta (58722points) April 5th, 2012

For example, if you are a woman who has gone through your change, do you desire sex less? If so, do you think that has anything to do with the fact you can no longer have babies, or is it for other reasons?

There are a variety of reasons you might be infertile. Does the knowledge of your infertility affect your desire? Do you think your body knows whether it is fertile or not and if not, does your desire for sex diminish whether or not you want it to?

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Trillian's avatar

Hmmmm. I’m still fertile. I wish I could have menopause like everybody else.
I don’t think that affects my libido.
It was extremely high when I was in my last relationship (I use that word knowing now that it was a joke but at the time I believed), and my SO used to say that he couldn’t keep up with me. I think it’s low now because I’m not in a relationship. (again with the word!) If I were in one again, I speculate that it would be right back up there.
But that’s just me and we all know that I’m not a reliable source.

augustlan's avatar

I had a hysterectomy at a young age (in my thirties), and felt far more relaxed after the surgery. Knowing I could not get pregnant again made sex that much more enjoyable for me. That said, my surgeon opted to leave my ovaries in place, so I still had a decent amount of hormones flowing through me. That might make a difference.

Coloma's avatar

The pregnancy risk being gone is extremely liberating but…the downside of menopause being 2.5 years out over here, yes, my desire has waned, also, this really sucks, but, I have read it is common, my orgasms have gotten weaker.
It has really become noticeable the last year and a half or so. The build up is there and then, it’s like “What? Was that IT?” A little fizzle, nothing like they used to be.

I am not taking any hormones, feel fine otherwise, but yes, weak climaxes are part of the post menopause scene.
Aaah well, one can remember. lolol

GoldieAV16's avatar

A lot of women experience greater desire for sex once the fear of an unwanted pregnancy is out of the equation.

cwilbur's avatar

My libido and my fertility seem unconnected, given that for a variety of reasons the sex acts I am drawn to are of the non-procreative sort.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I had my tubes tied in my early 30’s so I’ve been infertile forever and it didn’t decrease my libido one bit. What did affect my libido was gaining weight to where I didn’t like my body when naked. As soon as I got my shape back, my libido came back too.

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