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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Can you help me build a handy list of signs and portents that a person is about to dumped?

Asked by Imadethisupwithnoforethought (14659points) April 10th, 2012

I think it would be helpful to have a reference list of bad omens in a relationship. I could you use it for myself go forwards, and provide it to friends who could utilize it to easily identify red flags.

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bkcunningham's avatar

When a person asks on an Internet forum for signs of a pending break-up, that is a red flag.

john65pennington's avatar

bkcunningham you are so right. Asking the world for advice, in this category is a sure sign of a pending goodbye.

Only to add “if you suddenly feel ignored, by your lover, you could be about to be dumped”.

zenvelo's avatar

This applies to both sexes, but I’ll maintain my male perspective of women dumping men.

Your attempts at communication fail.
She’s busy at times when you would normally go out.
Sex is over.
She gets you something cheap for Christmas, birthday, Valentines Day,

Coloma's avatar

Well first of all I’d like to say that ”handy list cracked me up. I suppose you could make a list but…if you FEEL like you might be on the verge of being dumped why not just ask your SO..” Hey, are you about to dump me?”
Pay attention to your intuition and you can compile your own list of observations after your dumped. Everyones list may vary. lol
A big fat LOL to @bkcunningham

GladysMensch's avatar

If you suspect a dumping, then you must engage in a preliminary strike. Dump the bitch before s/he dumps you. If the dumped cries, then agree to take him/her back. If no tears, then you did the right thing and emerged as victor.

Coloma's avatar

@GladysMensch hahaha…” a preliminary strike?”
Um, isn’t that called playing games? Oh relationships…what drama. lol

beachbum76's avatar

When the partner stops paying attention, stops interacting, stops having conversations. When special dates are not noticed or remembered.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

When your partner’s Facebook status changes from “In a Relationship” to “Single” or “It’s Complicated.”

judochop's avatar

No more kissing. No more sweet texts. No more smiles when you enter the door.

Ponderer983's avatar

@GladysMensch That totally worked for me and was my approach in the last relationship. I had the feeling, sex was depleting, and then I said I’m not having a relationship with no sex!!! The point of a relationship is guaranteed sex lol. So I dropped him like a bad habit before he did it to me. Although he was a coward and probably would have never dumped me.

Bellatrix's avatar

Well they feel absent even when they are with you.

When your “I am about to be dumped” radar is going off and you are trying to ignore it but it just keeps going off.

Jeruba's avatar

When he says “I’m not good enough for you,” he wants out.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

@Jeruba I got that excuse once. He was right.

downtide's avatar

@judochop naah, those are just signs that you’ve been married a long time.

wundayatta's avatar

@Coloma I think @GladysMensch is acting as if love is a game to be played. I don’t know what the rules are that help you determine the winner or loser. Sounds to me like dumping first is a victorious move, even if you dump when you shouldn’t. Where do these ideas come from? Why do people treat it as a game? I suspect because they don’t know how to be sincere, or to tell if anyone else is being sincere.

Coloma's avatar

@wundayatta Agreed, aaah, the games people play. lol

Coloma's avatar

The last person I “dumped” was all talk and little walk. Being the straight shooter I am, when it became apparent he was, obviously, more into the fantasy than the reality of creating a dating relationship, I told him that saying he wanted to date me but wasn’t good at making plans was like saying one wanted to lose weight but still eat donuts for dinner. lol

He laughed, but he remained a man without a plan….next? ;-)

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