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What do you do to lift yourself up?

Asked by tups (6709points) June 19th, 2012

If you’re down. I find myself in a bored state of mind. I have vacation and I don’t do much, but I feel like I should be doing something. I just don’t know what it is.
When I’m out, it’s not the best. When I’m home, it’s not the best. I just can’t seem to relax in my mind or just have it nice.
I used to love a lot of time just relaxing, doing what I felt like, but these days I don’t feel that way.

What can I do to become more happy and positive and appreciate my vacation more? I feel like life is boring, but I know it’s not.
Do you know this feeling and if yes, what can you do about it?

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King_Pariah's avatar

Nothing, it takes too long. Just do and let do.

Nullo's avatar

Go places, and while you’re there stop and look at where you are. Think of how the place has existed throughout history. Imagine the stories that the walls might tell, if walls were prone to doing such things.
Do something that you’ve never done before. If you’re an indoorsy person, go hiking. If you’re a physical type, do something intellectual.
There’s limited value in just laying around. You have exhausted that value.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’m assuming you’re off from school by your topics. I always worked during my summer vacation. It gave me something to do and gave me my spending money. I was in a small town so I advertised in the newspaper looking for work and always had plenty to do.

Trillian's avatar

I started guided meditation a couple months ago. It has been no end of help to my mental state.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Unfortunately eat!!!!!

Kardamom's avatar

It doesn’t sound so much like you are bored, but maybe depressed. If that’s the case, then you should try to seek some help for that. Untreated depression will drag you down and become worse if you don’t deal with it.

I never get bored, although I do occasionally get depressed and I try to deal with it as it happens. There are literally millions of things to do. I would suggest starting with a list. Start with 10 things that you already know you have enjoyed in the past. Then add another 10 things that you have always been curious to try. Then add 10 things to the list that you think might be fun but you might have been afraid to do them alone.

Here are some things that I enjoy doing alone or with a friend or close relative:

Going to the movies. I recently saw Dark Shadows with a group. I loved it so much that I went to see it alone a few days later. AND I ate a big old gnarly plate full of nachos with jalapenos. Something I would never do in front of people I know LOL.

Walking, especially in the mountains along hiking trails, or at the beach or even the local park.

Visiting museums. You’d be surprised at how much cool stuff is inside. Do you have any interest in art, science, history?

Going to see live theater productions. If money is a problem, there are often Jr. Theater productions that are wonderful, in addition, you might be able to get free or discount tickets to regular plays. Go online and see how many theaters (big and small) there are in your town. I don’t recall ever seeing a play I didn’t enjoy. And it’s a completely different experience than watching a movie on TV or even at the theater.

Taking photographs. It’s one of my biggest passions.

Cooking. What do you like to eat? Go online and google stuff you like and find a recipe that sounds tempting. Better yet, find out what one of your nice neighbors likes and make something for them and take it over. Nice neighbors always appreciate little niceties like that.

Do you have any elderly neighbors that could use some help? See if any of them need their lawn mowed or the weeds pulled or if they need you to do a little shopping or house keeping for them. Offer to do it for free.

Organize your photographs. That alone, would keep me busy for a week!

Plan to get together with some of your older relatives and interview them about what life was like when they were your age. Come up with some questions ahead of time. Then write it all down and make copies for all your cousins and aunts and uncles.

Start a craft project. Ever made a mosaic? Built a bird house? Made decorative stepping stones for your yard?

Go for a swim or a bike ride or roller blading.

Write some fan fiction.

Look into taking a class or two. Creative writing, cooking, photography, flower arranging, calligraphy, sign language, tap dancing or whatever appeals to you.

Look into some volunteer work at the local animal shelter, at a retirement home, a plant nursery or farm, offer to clean out someone’s garage. Do something nice for someone else.

Plan a camping trip, even if you just invite a few friends over for a weenie roast and a sleepover in the back yard.

Plan a beach party or a picnic at a local park.

The worst thing you can do is just sit there and wallow in your boredome/down feelings.If you need help with depression, look into getting some help, ask your friends or relatives or a trusted teacher to help you get some help. At least if you do one or more, or even all of the things on this list, there is a chance that you might actually have a good time or do a good deed for someone else. Time is precious, don’t waste it.

Shippy's avatar

Perhaps you don’t have to “do” anything. Just loaf, or read a book, or doodle that is what vacations are about, taking a break from doing stuff.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Get myself cleaned up, maybe some pampered grooming.
I clean out and organize my closet.
If there’s time alone then I take a nap with the air turned down cool.
Make a list of what I want to get done the rest of the month.
Fire off emails to my closest friends.

wundayatta's avatar

Read a good book. Take a nice walk in the country. Do an activity that involves being with other people. Be careful about being alone, though. If you do not have an activity that immerses you, being alone will make you wonder what you are doing, and can start making you feel lonely and separated.

downtide's avatar

When I feel like that, it really helps me to take off on my own and go into the countryside ot go visiting another town. A change of pace and scenery really lifts me.

marinelife's avatar

Take a walk.

Go out for a cup of tea.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

What works for us may not work for you. We all have different characteristics built into our personalities that motivate us in a variety of ways. In order to overcome this feeling, it is important to tune into what your daily life was like when you felt in your personal zone.

The advice by @Kardamom is worth heeding: I would suggest starting with a list. Start with 10 things that you already know you have enjoyed in the past. Then add another 10 things that you have always been curious to try. Then add 10 things to the list that you think might be fun but you might have been afraid to do them alone.

Set goals and then break them down into tasks. Start chipping away at the list. Most people find satisfaction in accomplishing a goal, no matter how small it is. It not only makes time fly, but there is a reward at the end.

If you want some ideas, please let us know what you are personally interested in. We obviously want to help you out, so providing this information would help us help you.

athenasgriffin's avatar

Take every opportunity that comes your way. Don’t let doubts overwhelm the chances you have. You see a brochure about a day trip but you don’t have anyone to go with? Go anyway and assume you’ll find a friend.

wildpotato's avatar

I know what it feels like to be depressed. I go out in nature and do relaxing, though sonetimes vigorous activities – mostly kayaking, disc golfing, and hiking. I also sometimes go mushroom hunting, fly fishing, cross-country skiing, trail biking, and in the summer I do a ton of gardening for the same effect. I find being in the woods and being on the water soothes and uplifts me, and really takes me out of my head for a bit. Caring for plants is very satisfying as well. So I’d suggest finding something relaxing that you truly enjoy doing in the outdoors.

creative1's avatar

Smile and don’t think about having to enjoy it… Let it just happen. I find when I plan I start getting expectation of how something is suppose to go then when it does go how I pictured in my mind I don’t enjoy it as much as if I just do it and not even think about how it should go and I have a ton of fun.

Just get out and do anything and don’t think about having a good time or not

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