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Bad situation help?

Asked by youWISHyouknewME_152 (43points) May 30th, 2008 from iPhone

so there is this guy that I like. And I am I high school, so when I found out that he smoked, I didnt know what to do. So I asked my best friend. She just told me how much she hated him. And she nags on me everyday and tells me him a bad person and that he flirts with everyone. But I don’t care if he does, because he told me he likes 3 of my friends. And my friend told me that he told her that he liked me. So, I don’t know what to do about my friend or about corey (the guy I like) smoking. Help?

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wizard's avatar

Go tell the guy you like him too and get it over with =)

PupnTaco's avatar

If your standards for a relationship aren’t met by this guy, forget about it and move on. You deserve better.

osullivanbr's avatar

The negatives as I see it are.
1. He flirts with everyone. (Can you trust him, or is your friend just making that up?)
2. He smokes (Seems a problem for you)
Can you give us positives? Why do you like him so much?

The question I guess you have to ask yourself is this “Do I mind that he flirts, and can I trust him?).

Nobody here can answer that question for you. Just follow your heart girl.

youWISHyouknewME_152's avatar

yess. I do trust him. I haven’t known him for long, but he keeps every secret and tells me everything. He’s a lot different when he isnt around people. And he does smoke, and he can’t stop. But I respect and know better because I have lost family from it. And I like him because he is one of the two people I trust, he’s funny, really sweet, and cute. He also backs me up, knows when I am having a bad day, and talks to me wyn everyone is mad at me…

osullivanbr's avatar

Sounds like you’ve answered your own question. Don’t you think?

youWISHyouknewME_152's avatar

haha….I guess. Thanks…!!!!!!

marinelife's avatar

Once you’re an item, show him stuff on the smoking. Have him get a patch or gum to help quit. It’s the loving thing to do.

Theotherkid's avatar

Maybe you should take Foamy’s advice!

This is meant to be a joke^^^. I don’t mean it to be mean at all. I think you should get with him but then try to get him to quit smoking. :-) Good luck!

jstringham21's avatar

Unless you wanna die young, forget him. Second-hand smoke is just as bad as the real thing.

LunaFemme's avatar

I don’t think it is good to go into a relationship expecting someone to change. The first question to answer is, are you willing to be in a relationship with a smoker? If the answer is no, then I would refer to that as a “deal breaker” and not move forward in dating.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with telling he care for him & wish he would make a more positive choice. And, in fact tell him whenever he is ready, you’ll be his #1 cheerleader I just don’t think it is fair to move forward thinking you will change him.

scamp's avatar

It sounds like you have told us more negative things about him than positive. He flirts alot and he smokes. He likes you, but you are one of many girls he likes. I think you should look for someone who has more to offer you. You don’t need to make yourself part of anyone’s harem. Find a guy that you give you the respect and attention you deserve. Don’t set yourself up for heartbreak with a player. Good luck to you!

ninjaxmarc's avatar

don’t be naive…..

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