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Do you think the lax attitude regarding etiquette and social requirements today compared to the past makes social situations more difficult rather than less?

Asked by JLeslie (65412points) July 9th, 2012

It seems to me in the past there were more rules, specific rules, of how to behave and what is expected in social situations. Now it seems more like a free for all and that parents less and less guide their children in such matters. Or, at minimum that parents have less of a repertoire for what is required, because society has lower expectations of conforming to very specific rules regarding etiquette. Things understandably became more blurry in modern society, and many people feel less rules and lower expectations are easier, less stressful, and less judgmental.

But, for those who need strong guidelines and structure, this makes their life more difficult maybe? Harder to fake it til you make it? Maybe it also means more people are likely to do something that offends someone or does not meet up to social norms. Or, maybe it is the opposite?

Bonus question: Also, what about the diagnosis of asperger’s? Do you think it is especially harder for people who are not naturally outgoing and who tend to be withdrawn in social situations, who can be ultra focused and less aware of the people around them, and so maybe it accounts for us diagnosing asperger’s more? Seems a very specific set of instructions on expectations in a social interaction can help people like that? I think probably a good percentage of our scientists in the past and now have at least some characteristics of asperger’s, I am not so sure I would call it abnormal, but just a different personality type. My knowledge about asperger’s is rather minimal so I am sending the Q to people who know more about it for this part of the question.

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