When does someone cross the line between being sure of themself and being full of themself?

I think it’s a pretty clear line. When someone is confident and comfortable with who they are and what they’re capable of, they are sure of their self. If they believe their capabilities or character make them “better” than any other homosapien out there, they are full of their self.

The difference to me is simply how they perceive their own self within society.

Those that are sure of themselves knows that they’ve got two ears, two eyes and only one mouth for a reason. Those that are full of themselves forgets this.

@Taciturnu @tups GA’s. When we forget how to listen to others and think our opinion is the only one that matters then we’ve crosssed the line. Confidence is sexy, arrogance is annoying.

I personally feel it is when you are opinionated and couldn’t be bothered if you hurt any ones feelings.Plus you feel everything you do or say is very important.

@Adirondackwannabe Exactly! Arrogance is so annoying. Confidence makes people connect, arrogance disconnects.

To me, it is all in the mind of the judge. If you are the type of person to judge harshly, then people you meet will be “full of themselves”. If you are tolerant and think kindly of people you meet, you find nearly everyone is delightful and interesting.

I try to avoid judging other people, as that does not fit a happy life style.

Arrogance is in the eye of the beholder. Some people who are less confident find anyone, who is sure of himself, arrogant, when nothing could be farther from the truth.

You cross the line when you start telling people that you’re sure of yourself.

When one is sure of themselves (and often even when they’re not) they’ll give you their opinion; when one is full of themselves they’ll give you yours.

One is sure of themself when one is willing to express an opinion that differs from others publicly.

One is full of themselves when they talk exclusively about themselves and their opinions.

Why is it assumed that being full of one’s self is a progressive step beyond being sure of one’s self.
I would argue that they are two different states of being, with two different psycho-epistemological etiologies.

Being sure of one’s self would be an objective conclusion based on previous successes.

Being full of one’s self might be a compensation for insecurity, loneliness, failure etc.

One is a rational conclusion. The other is a neurosis.

@josie You read the question as stepping forward, while we actually agree that it’s a step to one side to a better place or a step to the other side to a place of being difficult.

I have encountered some people who are loud, too forward, too confident, attempting to dominate. those are usually called overly confident yet within feeling very inferior.
many times such people are a real pain to be around. they usually grew up with a dominant father or mother.

When the person starts to feel special about the job and thinks he is the only one who can do it then its time to remind him that he was full of himself.

When the full in question is of the shit variety.

When they stop listening.