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How do you overcome your fears?

Asked by Headyveggie (40points) October 4th, 2012 from iPhone

I lie awake at night, terrified that my body will be mutilated while my mind is still conscious. My thoughts endlessly loop on subjects from being impaled to cutting my jugular.
I’m tired of being scared, daily, that one of these thoughts will cause me to faint (which happens too frequently).

How do you deal with overwhelming fear? How do you overcome it?

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woodcutter's avatar

That is some over- the -top stuff to be sweating all the time. My big fear is not having enough money to take care of everything. Not that Friday the 13th stuff. Nothing overwhelming though. Have you seen a professional about this? Try to think it through. Unless you live in a really crappy neighborhood or have a stalker following, those fears are unfounded and over kill. Try running or some other kind of exercise that will make you tired and it will also make you feel better.
Good luck with this

starsofeight's avatar

Start by not calling them fears. They are stupid thoughts. We all have them. Each time a stupid thought occurs, name it as such. Each time, counter it with a thought you know is good and wholesome. Stupid thoughts will never go away entirely, so always have a good thought handy.

Alladin_Sane's avatar

Sounds like you’re having anxiety attacks. Talk to your doctor.

marinelife's avatar

Your fears are beyond the normal range of fear. You need to talk with a therapist to see why you have these fears.

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t. I just let them flow. I realize I can’t control my mind. It will think what it thinks. However, I can do something about which thoughts I pay attention to. I let stupid thoughts go. Sometimes I will laugh at them because they are so absurd. Then I thank my mind for the good laugh, and let the thought float away, while I turn my mind to other things.

Second, if I do dwell on a stupid thought, I realize it is for entertainment. If I am making myself sweat with fear, I figure it is because I want to experience fear sweat. People do, you know. They go to movies to get that feeling. But I (or you) don’t even have to go to movies. You can make it happen inside your head. For free. So think of all the money you are saving every time you have these thoughts. I’m serious.

There are people who would kill to faint. People who love the adrenaline rush of fear. So when your mind does that, before you let the thoughts go, spend a second gloating that you don’t have to pay for these stress feelings like most people do. Feel them. Faint. Let them go.

But you can’t overwhelm it. That won’t work. You must be gentle with yourself. Stop fighting it. Let those thoughts go. Fighting them makes them stronger. Feeling them and letting them go takes their power away. Especially when you realize how much money you are saving. LOL!

rojo's avatar

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

“Litany against fear” from Frank Herberts’ Dune novel

My wife made me an Illuminated Manuscript of this way back in the day. I have had it on my wall for years. It is in my library even now.

Kardamom's avatar

It sounds like you have OCD where your thoughts are like and endless tape loop.

If it’s as bad as you are describing, you should see your doctor and he/she might then refer you to a therapist. You shouldn’t have to live like this, there is treatment available.

Shippy's avatar

I really feel for you, it sounds like acute anxiety. I tried everything, when I had anxiety attacks or generalized anxiety. NOTHING worked. I found the only thing that worked was medication. Then ironically I could relax enough to even watch relaxing videos I have or even on youtube there are some great meditations. Meidication is not so bad, there is a suitable type for everyone. Not all are addictive. But I do recommend also if you can to go to therapy. It may solve the root of the problem or not. As @Kardamom pointed out you could be OCD. Very common , not unusual but quite debilitating.

Kardamom's avatar

The other thing that I was thinking is that you might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress that’s manifesting itself with these constant mind loop thoughts of terrible things.

Have you had any major traumas in your life?

If you do have PTSD or OCD, you really should talk wih your doctor and see if you can get some treatment. These are things that are not easily (if at all) wished away, or prayed away or exercised away. They often need therapy and/or meds.

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