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How do I make myself more attractive?

Asked by amberliy8 (98points) October 27th, 2012

I feel like I can never get the attention from the guys I like. How can I make myself more appealing to their eyes?

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Coloma's avatar

You can’t nor should you. If someone does not like you as you are it is phoney to try and re-create yourself to fit anothers image preferences. If you are well groomed, make the most of your natural assets, and, most importantly have a friendly, nice, and sincere personality, the right guy will show up eventually.
If you have to work that hard to attract attention the attention you attract will not be the right kind anyway.

NEVER change yourself for another, NEVER!

amberliy8's avatar

Thank you so much, yes im well groomed and i have all those personality and looks traits, i am original and have lots of friends but i have some acne and i feel like that is what makes me ugly ):

gailcalled's avatar

Stand up straight. Suck it in. Smile a lot. Then go about your business and live your life.

Trying to appeal to a generic group of “guys I like” is an Rx for disaster.

See a good dermatologist immediately to try to deal with the acne.

Are you a teen-ager? It’s a tough time to navigate the social shoals, I know.

laineybug's avatar

Guys will either like you for who you are, or won’t deserve you. If a guy only likes you for your looks then you’re better off without them. Just be yourself.

amberliy8's avatar

Yeah i have way less acne then i did ive done and tried everything i an currently using french green clay mask (natural) and its working great, yes im a teenager haha, thankyou for the tips @gailcalled

amberliy8's avatar

thankyou @laineybug me and this guy have liked each other on and off for 3 years, we dated a couple years ago, he currently has a girlfriend but he flirts with me and people think he secretly likes me. I am ALWAYS myself and I dont try to be what others want or expect, not to sound conceited but I’m pretty and very open and likable. (: lol I sound conceited sorry.

Shippy's avatar

Welcome to fluther :).

It’s true what everyone else wrote. But also a good energy helps, a great attitude and a certain confidence.

Psychology studies have shown that physically, triggers for most males is : long hair, a small waist, rounded buttocks, and a clear skin or youthful skin.

Not sure how helpful that is to the general population!

amberliy8's avatar

i have ALL but clear skin on my face, my skin is very soft though. haha @Shippy

amberliy8's avatar

My acne is not bad at all, few pimples here and there. Sadly. :/ @Shippy

bookish1's avatar

@amberliy8 : Aside from seconding the excellent wisdom already shared here, I will mention that if you’re a teenager, most of the guys for whom you are trying to become more attractive are probably just as self conscious and concerned about their acne and other physical features as you are. Puberty is a bitch, and girls are encouraged by society and heterosexcapitalism to worry about it, whereas guys are just not supposed to talk about it at all.

amberliy8's avatar

Lol, thankyou @bookish1 so true. x)

Sunny2's avatar

Don’t change a thing! You have a wonderful face. You just have to wait until the guys you’re attractive to are old enough not to be looking for a Barbie Doll type. Meanwhile, make friends of people you enjoy and who enjoy you. It’s not matter of if, it’s matter of when. You’ll meet someone with whom you will click and your world will change.

Coloma's avatar

@amberliy8 Yes, you are a darling, soulful and bright, don’t throw those beautiful bones at just any dog that comes sniffing around. Make ‘em WORK for your treats. ;-)

Judi's avatar

When I was HS age I had a friend who was a bit chubby, but sweet as a bug. ALL the guys liked her. When we would go out cruising, she would always say, “Smile, they like teeth.”
I think what made her statement true, was that guys liked girls who were having fun, with or without them. Their happiness didn’t depend on having a guy around, they were going out to have a good time, laugh and enjoy themselves and they were totally capable of creating happiness on their own. They were not dependant on a guy or anyone else to have fun, they WERE the fun.
I was always a little to serious to be a guy magnet like Ann was, but I never forgot the truth in her simple statement, “Smile, they like teeth.”

ucme's avatar

Stop asking how for a start, attractiveness starts within, massive cliche, but very true.

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livelaughlove21's avatar

“I’m pretty and very open and likable.”

Them what’s the problem? What makes you think anything needs to be done at all?

I’ve always made a point to not “chase” after guys or do anything to try to get their attention. I suppose it has worked, because I’m married and neither of us had to chase the other.

If a guy likes you, great. If not, move on. Never change anything about yourself just to get a guy. Teenage boys are rarely worth the trouble.

JLeslie's avatar

Ditto what @gailcalled said. The only thing I would have added was to explain the stand up straight is another way of saying walking around with confidence in yourself will attract people to you.

khermajesty's avatar

You need to look inside of yourself, rather than on the outside. It’s not their eyes that you should be trying to attract. I did that for the longest time, it got me nowhere. What worked for me was getting pissed off and realizing that I was worth so much more than what was being put in front of my face. It took me a long time to finally get the picture, and realize that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That beholder should ultimately be you.

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