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How can i tell which friends are real?

Asked by missbabyboo (195points) June 5th, 2008

seriously im having so many problems with friends these days..i dont know which are my real friends one point we were so close, then another so far away..i just dont know anymore and its really stressing and depressing

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jlm11f's avatar

Real friends are those that stick with you when you F*ck up. those that accept you for who you are, don’t expect you to change. only time can tell which friends are real. as for you, do your part and be a good, loyal friend to them (unless you have just cause to stop doing that)

Mtl_zack's avatar

real friends are people who dont care about your social status. they simply want to be with you. they also have to be good listeners if you’re in trouble and always have your back. if they abandon you in a time of need, either talk with them and discuss it and maybe they had a good reason, but if not, then screw them.

Notreallyhere's avatar

To me, real friends are part of the solution. What I mean is that they:
Don’t judge you,but give you advise.
Are willing to sacrifice a lot to see you happy
Get happy with your success, not jealous and…
Are proud to be your friends

exek1's avatar

the ones that are always there to watch your back no matter what…... I had fake friends before. Backstabers… I hate them.

babygalll's avatar

If you have to question who your friends are then they aren’t friends.

wildflower's avatar

Real friends are those that will be honest with you – even if it hurts. They may get upset with you, but they won’t leave you.

True friends stab you in the front.
Oscar Wilde

jlm11f's avatar

@ wildflower – i love that quote! thank you for giving me an addition to my quotes list!

wildflower's avatar – one of my favorites :)

ebenezer's avatar

have them pinch you.

Notreallyhere's avatar

@ebenezer: good one

edmartin101's avatar

This is so true:
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.
thanks to wildflower’s link

bridold's avatar

I’ve always kept all my friends at a distance. I’ve been hurt and screwed over more by my friends than any guy.

My sisters and brother are my only true friends that I keep very close. All of my other friends are there because I WANT them to be not because I NEED them to be.

True friends are your friends unconditionally. No strings attached.

edmartin101's avatar

yupp….you got that right bridold. Your female friends may not be as good as you want to be cos they may be jealous of some sort about you. It could be for many different reasons that is hard to understand sometimes. Someone said guys are simpler and don’t have hung ups as most girls do. Besides one problem I see girls have is that they are moody… that is so tricky to deal with, especially when they give me the silent treatment and tell me… should know what I mean!! Let me tell you, it always gets me off guard.

jamzzy's avatar

get in a bad situation who ever is still there with you are your good friends. or if you can do some embarrising stuff in front of them and only them than that would be sweet.

babygalll's avatar

You shouldn’t have to test who your friends are. The should like you unconditionally and accept you for who you are. Just take some time to yourself and ignore what they say or do to you. Show them that it doesn’t bother you the way they are treating you. The ones who care may or may not come back. If not, you are better off without them. Go out and meet new people. Nobody is better than you!

buster's avatar

i always heard if you have five people in your life you can count as “true” friends your doing good. friends come and go. only a few of your friendships will last forever. don’t sweat it. you will make more friends or friends you havent seen in a while will come back around.

scamp's avatar

buster makes a good point here.

babygalll's avatar

@ buster: If you can count your friends on one hand then you have yourself a family.

jamzzy's avatar

you know which friends are not real when youre questioning if they are real haha

edmartin101's avatar

@jamzzy if you question your friends to find out if they are real, everyone of them will say they are. You can’t find out who is real based on what they say, but based on what they do when you are in deep shit

jnglejo's avatar

You seem young right. I wouldn’t wory about it, when you’re young friends come and go. If you’re not comfortable with your friends at the moment go out and make some new ones, life’s too short to worry about them and there’s plenty if people out there.

jamzzy's avatar

@edmartin101 i said that already scroll up =]

Miss_Lys's avatar

From my experience once oyu think you trust someone you should spill to them because if you have these problems a lot then obviously its not working. People could use things against you once they know a lot. The best secret is the one you keep to yourself. But i guess a true friend is one who talks to you about everything and there problems because that means they trust you.

stephen's avatar

i think the first and the most important thing is that u should make them feel that ur their real friend!

joeysefika's avatar

Yes we’ve all heard this before but i must post
FAKE FRIENDS: Never ask for food.
REAl FRIENDS: are the reason you have no food.

FAKE FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr/Mrs
REAl FRIENDS: Call your parents DAD/MOM

FAKE FRIENDS: bail you out of jail and tell you what you did was wrong.
REAl FRIENDS: Would sit next to you sayin “Damn… we fucked up… but that shit was fun!”

FAKE FRIENDS: never seen you cry.
REAl FRIENDS: cry with you

FAKE FRIENDS: Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
REAl FRIENDS: keep your shit so long they forget its yours.

FAKE FRIENDS: know a few things about you.
REAl FRIENDS: Could write a book about you with direct quotes from you.

FAKE FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
REAl FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds ass that left you.

FAKE FRIENDS: Would knock on your front door.
REAl FRIENDS: Walk right in and say “I’M HOME!”

FAKE FRIENDS: Are for awhile.
REAl FRIENDS: Are for life.

FAKE FRIENDS: will talk shit to the person who talks shit about you.
REAl FRIENDS: Will knock them the fuck out

Miss_Lys's avatar

That about sums it up joeysefika

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tb1570's avatar

Sometimes we also just need to accept that people & relationships sometimes change. That doesn’t make it any more or less real, genuine or valuable at the time, just means that things, people, change sometimes. Be happy for the great moments you shared and try not to waste too much time dwelling in the past.

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