Are you a control freak ?

I am a perfectionist in some ways (with myself) but I don’t try to control others.

I don’t care if I am friends with my colleagues but I do want to get along with them.

Yes, nobody is perfect. Keep up the great questions.

Yes, I wish I could control the number of duplicate questions that keep appearing by what appears to be a question bot.

I like theses questions.

I am not obsessed with perfection, but I do like to control things. I think this is why I am living on my own. It has proved to be very difficult for me to live with other people. I like things the way I like them. I also like other people, but it seems that my disapproval appears on my face and my body even when I don’t mean them to. So here I am. My life is under control, mostly. But I do get lonely.

I am getting a divorce right now, in part because my husband is a control freak. That is not the only reason but controlling others really hurts relationships.

Those are two questions that are unrelated in many ways. I know a lot of control freaks who are not at all obsessed with perfection.

For me the answer is no on both counts.

I want things to be the way I like them. It’s really hard for me to let other people have things another way, when I know I won’t like it. Perfection isn’t necessary, though.

Although I don’t think anyone ever expected me to be perfect (and certainly I didn’t expect that), I felt that great things were expected of me and that I was no good if I did not achieve those things. Or I used to feel that way. I’ve managed to give that up. Even if I don’t save the world, I think I can be happy, now. Or rather, even if I never please my parents, I can be happy. It would be easier to save the world than please my parents, but I’m not going to do either.

Sure, in many ways I am a control freak. If I can do it rather than have someone else do it, I want to do it so it’s exactly how I want it.