Am I in the wrong here?

Asked by tan253 (2948) December 20th, 2012 from iPhone

Ok so this is a personal question.
I feel that I can’t discuss this with family as I don’t want them to judge harshly.

My partner is a drinker – he’s in the music industry so he’s out all the time and always in bars.
He’s not a musician.
We have a beautiful daughter, 9 months and I am a full time mum.
My partner is amazing – he’s a great dad and loving partner but I hate his drinking.
We are very different and just hanging on at the moment.

He can’t just have one drink he drinks a lot and normally comes home drunk and falls asleep (3am)
This morning we had discussion about it, he said, ‘how does my drinking affect you – how has it affected us this morning?’ – well the truth is is that it doesn’t. Sure he smells like a bar and I hate that our daughter can smell it but he’s functioning – he’s up a 7am helping with breakfast etc etc so am I out of line to ask him to stop?
I don’t like him drunk, but everyone loves that he is the guy for a good night out.
My argument is that we are parents now and I feel we owe our daughter good role models of which for the most part he is – he just likes to drink – at home he will drink a bottle of wine himself – and drinks every night.
I don’t know if I’m out of line here or I should just accept it?

I hate it – I think it’s substance abuse and believe he should be taking better care of his body but I don’t drink at all.

It’s ruining our marriage so need advice!

Thanks x